Mum showed me a box that she found whilst clearing out her loft. The box contained all the notes that Dad had written her whilst they were “courting”. They were even more special because Dad was dyslexic and the writing was poor and very hard to understand.
There was even the receipts of gifts that he had sent mum. One was for an emerald ring that he had hidden inside a pickled onion jar, with a note attached saying…”Just like you, I have a heart of gold”
Dad wasn’t the most obviously romantic person, yet the letters showed the undying love he …read more

Memories are so wonderful and I loved this story that I found over at MamaConnies blog called My Best Valentine. MamaConnie describes herself as 84 years young and lost her husband in 2000 after 57 years together. She was sorting through her Valentine letters and saw these words thateased her grief
“Proverbsl 18: 22 says:”He that findeth a good wife findeth a good thing.” When I see something I really want I try to get it.The first time I saw you I said,’that’s for me.’ I proposed on our first date. I think I proposed on every other date but you …read more

Last night I found some old letters that I had received whilst we were going out together. I had forgotten about their existence and when I read them…..oh, I tell you my heart felt ready to explode. It was great to read about how we felt, bringing back the memories of how much in love we were…but wow, the after shock was huge.
Tears fell like waterfalls, my body felt empty, weak with emotion. I sat holding the letters and this made me wonder whether it was healthy to keep them?
What do you think? Do you keep letters and other …read more

Our hearts are muscles that need exercise, our hearts have been overworked and need looking after. Here is a simple exercise routine to help our heart recover.

Smiling encourages serotonin and stimulates our body.
Showing love to others
Feeling the love of friends of family
Walking to enjoy nature and rediscover the joy of life

Our heart may feel broken but in truth it is injured, needing a little tender loving care to get it back   beating in time with life.

….I saw this and smiled – “To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven” a quote by Karen Sunde.
And now he’s there….  

I have no idea why, I have been working very hard but today the energy has just drained out of me. As normally I don’t have this problem, I tend to not fight it…if my body and mind are saying they want a rest, then I give them a rest.
I never feel guilty from having a chill out day when I just recharge the batteries. After all grief is very draining on your mind, body and soul. I snuggle up on the sofa and doze to music – how do you deal with these kind of days?

For those of you who are having to deal with money for the first time here are some ideas to think how to improve your knowledge.

There are many on line tutorials of handling your money – google managing your money and increase your knowledge for free.
Ask friends who are good with money. Often friends don’t know how to help you in times of grief and will be relieved at having a chance to provide some practical advice.
Don’t be too proud at this time. Speaking to your bank early can get you some free advice and also if money is in …read more

A new study has said that misdiagnosed as depression and can harm the bereaved. The press release on prweb states
“The Grief Recovery Institute has been in the trenches with grieving people for 30 years. Institute founder, John W. James reports, “Frankly, it has become more and more difficult for us to help grievers with the principles and actions of Grief Recovery, since so many of them are put on psychotropic medications almost before the funeral of their loved one or the ink is dry on their divorce papers. Being on those drugs, not only inhibits the griever’s ability to do …read more

I try not to have regrets, because we can never change the past. I was also lucky in the sense that I got to say goodbye….even then there are things I wish I had said

You changed my life…you allowed me to understand what love really is..
Thank you for being you, and thank you for allowing me to be me…
Your bad habits were not that bad…in fact I will miss them

If you could say something what would it be?

OK when I think I have read about most things I then read Guardian Unlimited and Keith Richards snorting his dad’s ashes
” “The strangest thing I’ve tried to snort? My father. I snorted my father,” he told NME magazine.
“He was cremated and I couldn’t resist grinding him up with a little bit of blow. My dad wouldn’t have cared, he didn’t give a shit. It went down pretty well, and I’m still alive.”  
Now I know I have never understood drugs but I cannot understand why anyone would do this….I suppose it is like I always say, people deal with …read more