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Happy Birthday, Mum!

Anna Farmery — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 10:36:58 +0000

I remember so clearly losing Dad and promising him that I would look after the lady he had loved so much – my mum. Well today she is celebrating her 79th birthday. I still live too far away to nip in for a cup of coffee and some of her gorgeous home baking but I did go and see her this weekend and we went out for tea.

I love my mum so much, I am lucky that we have always had a special connection. I used to spend hours sat on her knee as a child and we share a ‘wicked’ sense of humour.

I sent her a card saying that she is my friend, my world, my everything….and she is…When you lose someone so special like Dad, it makes sure that you value the love you have and the people around you. You see Dad is still having an effect after all these years.

Mum is also a shining example to everyone of how to rebuild a life without the man she loves…she misses him every day yet she is out and about enjoying the friendships she has made and makes us younger ones seem as though we don’t have enough energy.

Happy Birthday, Mum! This is a photo of Mum and her 99 year old Mum as well

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Reflections on Grief at Christmas

Anna Farmery — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 00:24:04 +0000

Just 23 minutes to go until Christmas day

A day when familys gather and smiles fill the air

Oh, 7 hours and 23 minutes until I wake

And realise once again, YOU my soulmate, are not there

But fear not world I will put on the paint

And sense your warmth from up above

Which will get me through the day, a day of loss

Through the one thing you gave me, they could not take away….

…Your love.

Happy Christmas, love you as much today as when you went away….

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I Miss You, Dad

Anna Farmery — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 23:06:31 +0000

It is 5 years today that Dad took his final bow from this world. A world that he graced so well. There is not a day goes by without me thinking of him, wishing that I had spent more time with him, asking myself how could I have been a better daughter….all the kind of thoughts, grief riddles your brain with, during the bereavement process.Many of you know that I run a podcast and blog in Dad’s honor called The Engaging Brand. He would have been so proud as this year it was nominated for the Best Business Podcast award. Though it will not win as it is up against major shows, he would have been proud for 2 main reasons

That the podcast is about helping others, helping them find their potential. He believed so much in people, he believed that life was like a treasure hunt….a treasure hunt in which you spend each day looking and finding the good in others
And also that by doing this in my spare time, to keep his legacy alive…his maverick daughter had finally found a way of showing her love for him!

Dad I miss you more than any words can say, I am looking after mum every day just like I promised, but you know this world is just not the same without you……..sleep well in the thought that we carry you in our hearts each day and that we are continuing that treasure hunt in your wonderful name. Love you xxx

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Where does strength come from for Grief?

Anna Farmery — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 19:49:35 +0000

From the love that made you who you are….
From the desire to keep their memory alive….
From knowing that nothing, absolutely nothing, will bring them back..
From knowing that life is too precious to give away….
From seeing the pain of those around you, who want you to come through the pain….
From a life history of knowing that things will “look better in the morning!”
From focuing on what you can do rather than what you can’t change…
From knowing that they would want you to find a happiness….
From deep inside, from that personality that made them love you….
From knowing that giving up will feel no better!

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A Choice with Grief

Anna Farmery — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 13:35:44 +0000

As many of you may know, my day job is working for a company called The Engaging Brand and in that role I was lucky enough last year to meet a wonderful blogger and podcaster called Christopher Penn who has just written a beautiful post on grief and how we can either let it destroy us or use it as motivation to live a full life. The post contains some wonderful words from Matthew Ebel

“Seems I lost my my status quo.
I looked up one day, you were pulled away
now I ain’t got much to show.
Where you’ve gone to I don’t know,
But I can love you.

And if you love me I can hold on tight,
and if you love me I won’t fall off this ride.
And if you love me I can go anywhere.

So I will wait for you I swear.
The night feels like it’s unending,
but I don’t care.
And I will wait for you I swear.
The sun’s coming up in the morning
and I’ll be there.

Every step just makes me tired.
Every answer brings more questions.
Though I try to feel inspired,
I can’t change the way I’m wired,
but I can love you.

And if you love me you can heal my scars.
and if you love me I’ll move to the stars.
And if you love me I can bend but I won’t tear.

When it’s done we’re not alone–
the door opens on its own
and we will come home.”

I thought I would share this and hope that it helps you face the day.

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