My wonderful mum just sent me this and it made me smile…
If you can start the day without caffeine,
If you can always be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains,
If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles,
If you can eat the same food every day and be grateful for it,
If you can …read more

Yes, if it means not losing our loved ones, but then I wonder what the world would be like…

Wouldn’t it be too perfect if we could turn the clocks back each time we make a mistake or something goes wrong?
Would we lose the human nature of being an imperfect human!
There would be no death….there would be no circle of life….we would just die when the worlds resources could not cope anymore, which would be an even longer, painful death.
Would we be in danger of not growing as people. Isn’t it through the hard times that you learn the most about …read more

I can’t remember who said it but someone said something like “The most valuable land in the world is the cemetery, think of all the treasures, the books not written, the ideas laying dormant” 
When you think about it, it is true. Our loved ones had dreams, our loved ones talked about doing things that now no longer will be possible….one lesson as widows and widowers we should take from that, is that we should spend our time living that dream before it is too late.
Dreams, ideas are just that, unless we find a way of making them reality. If the death …read more

I posted yesterday about Is there life after death, and Diane wrote such wonderful words that I wanted to share them with you. She also left a link to the Waterbug story
“I believe that the loss of a loved one does change you forever but that the change isn’t always a bad thing. The days will come when the smiles will take over the tears when talking about our loved ones. Everything we go though in  this life as an affect on us death is no different.”
It was the last sentence that made me really think…”everything we got through….has …read more

Sandra from Families Against Crime  left a comment to PS I Love You giving the back story of the book that I talked about and explaining how this book of poetry, dedicated to all those we have lost to a violent crime…. came to being.She also left a link to a tribute website for Matthew Martins which again is a wonderful way of expressing your feelings and building a memorial to our lost loved ones. This is part of what she says
“This is for all those who have lost a child, mother, father, brother, or sister due to a …read more

Today I have had “one of those days” – my heating packed up again, some audio wouldn’t work for my podcast, one cat was vomiting, one cat has a cold, the feed of my work blog stopped working and my friend’s son went into hospital…..all within 2 hours.
I found myself saying to myself “I wish today was over”
Then I stopped and thought about what I had said…would all those loved ones who have died swapped their death for a heating problem… I think we know the answer!
I sat back, had a coffee and talked aloud about all the things that …read more

Death brings that separation and often gives that sense of grief of not being able to say final words to the person you love…well, I came across a site called Justincaseidie which says
“For many people, the worst thing about dying is that you’ll never get to see your loved ones again, or eat another steak, or gaze upon another sunrise. For others, however, it’s that you never got to tell your boss he was a prat.
 
Enter Justincaseidie.com. in just a few clicks, you can save a message that will only be sent to it’s intended recipient if you die. …read more

I think we can often feel guilty about enjoying our lives, guilty about laughing but laughing is an important part of anyone’s life. Take a look at these quotes
“Mirth is God’s medicine. Everybody ought to bathe in it.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher
“Laughter is the sun that drives winter from the human face.” ~ Victor Hugo
“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” ~ E.E.   Cummings
Laughter enables the positive chemicals in our body to circulate, it really is the best medicine. Laughter never means that we are forgetting our lost loved ones, it does not mean …read more

Today is the start of a whole new set of experiences, a whole new set of emotions and it is not what happens but rather our reaction to them that will be important. Here is how I want to START the week!
S= Smile and make the whole world a better place.
T= Thank someone just for being them
A= Arrange to visit someone who you haven’t seen for a while or who is feeling down and give value to their life
R= Remember our lost loves in a positive way, for all the right reasons. The happiness they brought rather than the pain …read more