We know in our grief, that we have a huge heart – one that has loved and one that understands the meaning of love.
I think we need to dig deep into our hearts during our bereavement. We need to dig into the depth of our BIG heart – grief can make us shrivel from life, I know that I have felt that way! However, now I think it takes a big person with a big heart to cope with bereavement and use it to make the world a better place.
B = Be understanding that we were lucky to have loved, …read more

Death has made me think about life – how the death of a loved one affects you

They die..you live
Cuddles disappear but love stays in your heart
Their presence has gone but the memories live on forever
They may not be in the house but they will remain in your soul
Your rock may not be here but your steel will see you through
Death may bring loss however love brought huge gains
In death you value life 

Is it just me but does grief make you see the contradictions – after all death parts two people however it brings you closer to the real meaning …read more

When I was young I was the original child that loved fairgrounds and fair rides. There was a ride called The Tunnel of Love. At that age it was exciting, it was fun.
I now understand that the ride was an analogy of real love. Real love is exciting, fun, adventurous….it is a journey that has a start and as all widows and widowers know, an ending. There is light, there is darkness but most of all it is scary.
The tunnel of love…gives you excitement, gives you thrills. The tunnel of love has ups and downs, light and darkness. The …read more

If you are reading Widows Quest, you know the meaning of heartfelt pain. Pain hurts but the more I think about the real meaning of pain – I think that it is there for a reason.

It is there because we felt the true meaning of love. Would I have given up the chance to feel love…No. Pain is a sign that I have loved. I am lucky.
Pain can help us understand more about the world and more about ourselves. Without pain would we learn to be compassionate?
Pain is not a punishment, I like to think of it as a …read more