Today is our remembrance Sunday and I thought that instead of publishing the usual positive thinking articles I must take the time to remember those people who put their lives on the line to protect us all at home. I can never express my thanks throughout the century for all the men and women who have paid the ultimate price for freedom.
I can’t express the emotion that I have when I see a life taken in combat and how the family copes with the grief and sheer horror of loss.
There are no words I can write on Widows Quest that …read more

Forget whether the wars in Afghanistan or Iraq are right – that is not relevant to this blog post – but it seems that each day I watch the news there are more deaths in Afghanistan. More fathers, sons, daughters, wives dying, more coffins returning home to their family.
For someone who knows the devastation of death, I just cannot imagine what these familes go through. What they go through when they are alive fighting on the front line and what they go through when they hear that fateful news…..
I don’t think I could cope with the not knowing, the fear, …read more

Oh wow, there are times when my heart just aches at the pain of death. Rather than comment too much I will let you read a blog post from a soldier who died – he left a blog post to be published in case of his death.
Here is a snippet but suggest you read his thoughts in full -
“What I don’t want this to be is a chance for me, or anyone else, to be maudlin. I’m dead. That sucks, at least for me and my family and friends. But all the tears in the world aren’t going to bring …read more

When will we as a world stop causing families so much pain, so much suffering? When will we be able to live together again, instead of taking life away….. My tears flowed when I heard about Jason Hubbard and his family.
“A US soldier has been withdrawn from Iraq after his two brothers were killed in action, echoing the Oscar-winning film “Saving Private Ryan”, it was reported Friday.
 
Jason Hubbard, 33, will return to his family’s home in northern California after younger brother Nathan, 21, was one of 14 soldiers killed in a Black Hawk helicopter crash in northern Iraq on Wednesday.
 
The …read more

I continue to feel guilty about the effect of war on the world and also the effect on families. I don’t mean this post to be a political comment – far from it, whether the war is right or wrong is irrelevant to the families that are suffering loss. For me it is about how we support people, how we ensure that these children are helped to cope with loss, cope with their feelings so that we don’t have huge long term effects. Grief is not just a by product it is a real problem that we need to support. …read more