Sometimes I wonder when we put on the stoical face, when we smile when we are crying inside, when we say we are fine when we really want to say we feel awful – all in the name of making the other people feel better – is it OK that we are being two faced to ourselves?
Why I wonder is I can see why it is important to say all the words above

People get tired of us talking about our grief.
Depression is contagious and people try to avoid someone who is draining their energy.
To help ourselves – the more we …read more

I wonder what you would say, I have written down a few sentences – what would you answer ?
Grief is mourning the loss of life, but the gain of memories
Grief is the end of one chapter and the start of another
Grief is the loss of a loved one but the gain of knowing what love truly is…
Grief is the pain of living in the present whilst wanting to live in the past
Grief is knowing what is important and wishing that you had known before…
Grief is personal, individual, yet universal. 

Grief is fear of the past, present and future
Grief is …read more

One of our readers Frank Burns left an in depth comment to the post The Widows Quest Grief Recipe which I wanted to share with you, in case you don’t read all of the comments. (There are some great conversations that may help you by the way!) I want to thank Frank for taking the time and sharing some wonderful words on grief. Here is his comment
“Grieving is all a part of what we’re supposed to do when tragedy strikes. It is a part of our being human that triggers this response.How we cope is not entirely left to us …read more

Over at Seattle PI I read an insight into what mourning is and what mourning isn’t – called Test Your Knowledge of Mourning.
I would like to draw attention to their comment about health, which is so important
While your own health may be your last concern while you are mourning a loved one, you should try to keep your physical well-being in mind by making sure you’re eating, getting some exercise and seeing a doctor if and when you need to.

Death is tragic, the loss of a loved one is one of the most painful emotions that anyone can suffer…but do you know what the real tragedy can be?  
I think the real tragedy is when we don’t use our bereavement to grow as a person, when we don’t use the loss of a loved one to think about our life. Our life is precious, we are mourning the loss of someone, we should understand the amazing nature of life…..so to prevent further tragedy we must find a purpose for our life. We need to think about how we want …read more

I bet you have heard the Beatles song in fact I did today and it started me thinking…..maybe it should be our theme song. Just look at the title…
 Live……possibly the most difficult thing when you have lost someone. Living seems almost secondary to the pain, but we must cherish the wonderful gift of life – remember we are mourning the loss of one life, which shows how precious a life is to the human race. So we need to dig deep and learn to live again, learn to smile again and learn that we are strong enough on our own, …read more

Welcome to our Sunday blog carnival which will inspire you through the next 7 days. Positive thinking is part of the grief process, it is our choice about how we feel, how we get through this period. So read these stories and ideas and hopefully you will enjoy the week..
Alex Blackwell presents Achieving Life Balance posted at The Next 45 Years.

Tristan presents Rewarding Yourself for Getting Things Done (and on Time) posted at The Synergy Institute, saying, “In this article, Life Coach Tristan Loo, lists five simple strategies to maximize your motivation and your productivity when trying to get things …read more

The start of a new week, here are articles which will help you take a positive mindset over the next few days. We may be grieving, we may be hurting but we can fight the depression and rebuild our lives.

Charles H. Green presents The Dark Side of Trust? Not! posted at Trust Matters, saying, “Harvard claims the key to trust is micromanagement; but the reality is that you can improve your personal and business relationships by letting go enough that trust has room to flourish.”

Chris Stevens presents Positive Thought for the day posted at Positive thoughts and more.

Lexi Sundell …read more

Welcome to the August 5, 2007 edition of positive thinking.

Maria Palma presents A Journey From Negativity to Positivity posted at The Good Life, saying, “Discover the beauty in everything and realize that for every setback, obstacle, or tragedy that happens in our lives, something positive comes from it.”
Anna presents What Motivates You? posted at The Engaging Brand

Kara-Leah Masina presents Pain will always exist – but suffering is optional posted at K-L Masina, saying, “Life will always contain pain – physical pain, emotional pain and mental pain. Acceptance of this pain, and allowing this pain to be what it is in …read more

I was reading a blog post today that touched my heart. Over at Guerilla HR there is a post about the loss of a young marine. Here is a snippet
“My family is mourning the loss of my nephew, Corporal James Mazza Jr. Jimmy was a great kid who grew up to be an outstanding young man and a proud Marine. In his passing, I have come to realize some of the great lessons I can learn from him.

Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because is happened – Jimmy loved that line, and I can now understand how well it truly …read more