B = Being there to let it cry as crying relieves the pain

R = Remembering that even when a vase breaks, all it needs is some glue to put it back together. That glue in grief is hope, love and friendship

E = Enjoyment. Your heart needs to balance pain with enjoyment. Enjoyment is the fuel for it to grow and mend. Don’t feel guilty about laughing, going out …..your heart needs that to mend that break, it needs the fuel of life to cope with death. No matter how down you feel try and do one thing that will bring some joy…a walk, a telephone call, a film…

A = Allow the pain don’t hold it in, yet try and control that downward spiral. Allowing times to grieve is so important but so is forcing yourself through that pain barrier to live again…no one else can do that just you…and you know all of us don’t believe that our hearts will ever mend, but in time the break becomes a fracture, that becomes a crack, that becomes a chink – and although it still hurts it can help you grow into a wiser person

K = Keep believing in yourself. Your strength is immeasurable, look at what you have faced already! Human beings are resilient and if we keep going, if we keep believing that joy will come again. To help this bereavement process then give yourself something to look forward to…a holiday, a manicure, a new outfit, a doughnut on a Friday!…Always remember

One beat at a time…

One step at a time

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