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Carnival of Postive Thinking

Anna Farmery — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 12:22:05 +0000

A death will make us look at life differently, sometimes we just need some tips on how to turn our depression from our grief into a new style of happiness. Each Sunday, I post articles that will help us start to turn our life around

Jeremy Day presents How to Overcome Our 3 Biggest Enemies in Life posted at Insight Writer.

V & A presents Sit Down Life posted at Sit Down Life, saying, “Stop running in the mad rush. Relax speedster!”

Richard Johnson presents Dealing with a Negative Body Image posted at Reaching A Better Place, saying, “The mental means to get over a negative body image that actually work and how a person can employ them.”

Karen Shanley presents Chop Wood, Carry Water posted at Karen Shanley.

AndrewB presents Self Improvement For Financial Success posted at Personal Hack, saying, “How can managing money be a ways to improve your self esteem? We don’t realize how we let our financial success or failure control our self improvement. Does it affect you?”

Alexander De Foe presents How You Can Use Your Emotions for Personal Transformation posted at SpiritualBlog.com.

presents How to Navigate the River of Life posted at Melissa Thinks Out Loud, saying, “Life is full of so many unexpected events. Some are wonderful and some are devastating. In this article I compare life to a river and share my insights on how to navigate that river and deal with life’s ups and downs.”

Chris Edgar presents Do You Have The “Right” To Pursue Your Goals? posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “Many of us have felt the sense, before we embark on some project, that for whatever reason we don’t have “the right” to do it. But strangely, even if we do the things we think are necessary to get “the right” to achieve our goals, we’re often still plagued by the sense that we need to do something more. This article is about transcending the sense that we don’t deserve to go for what we want.”

VW presents Leaving on the midnight train to Sighisoara posted at Wide Awake in Wonderland, saying, “So sorry about your loss. Hope tomorrow goes as well as possible for you…”

Fiona King presents 100 Blogs that Will Inspire You to Be a Better Person posted at Massage Therapy Careers.

AdmirableIndia.com presents Trip to Kanyakumari: Chapter 1: Vivekananda Rock Memorial, Kanyakumari and Thiruvalluvar Statue, Kanyakumari: Part 4 posted at AdmirableIndia.com.

pnreddy presents Parents? Positive Attitude Influences Their Children posted at Self Help Zone.

pnreddy presents Essential Strategies To Mould Yourself Into A Mentally Strong Person! posted at Self Help Zone.

Peter Murphy presents What To Do When A Conversation Runs Out Of Steam posted at Communication Skills Power.

omguy presents Its About Love posted at Ordinary Miracles, saying, “What is love really? And what does it have to do with leading a meaningful joy-filled life? Love is not a mere feeling, behavior, thought, or biochemical response. Love is free and available to all and everyone. There is no end to its supply, in fact the more love you put out the more it generates. Love is a key ingredient to happiness.”

Applying the Law of Attraction presents Using the Law of Attraction to Choose a Path in Life posted at Applying the Law of Attraction Membership Library, saying, “When you are deciding on a path in life you need to utilize the law of attraction give it the opportunity to help. You must think about the things that are important to you and cause you to be happy.”

Peter presents The Ultimate Guide to Stress Relief posted at The Change Blog.

Donald Latumahina presents Attitude Adjustment: A Good Sense of Humor Will Make You a Winner posted at Life Optimizer.

Good Thing presents A Million Good Things posted at A Million Good Things.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our carnival submission form.

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Their Love and Life Lives On

Anna Farmery — Wed, 02 Jan 2008 18:36:13 +0000

Mum spent New Years Eve with me as she normally does since Dad died. Normally, about 10pm she disappears to her bedroom for a few tears….and I give her a few moments then go and give her a hug. However, this year…a little sadness in the eyes but no tears. I said to her, that I was proud of how she continues to cope….

She said that the pain never goes away but your heart learns to cope with the pain…and then she said something that really touched me. “Anyway, whilst you are alive your dad is alive…I see him in your eyes, in your heart and in everything you do”

Many people do not have the gift of children but for those who do, the legacy of your loved one’s life will always live on …“in your childrens eyes and in your childrens hearts”

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50 Questions for Family History

Anna Farmery — Tue, 02 Oct 2007 14:47:04 +0000

One thing that grief has taught me is that when you lose someone, you lose their insight into various areas of your life. I came across this article at about.com entitled 50 Questions for Family History. I think this is a great idea to do with surviving family members and parents so that you get a chance to understand more about your history and what makes you, you. I wish I had seen this before my dad died….

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Tips on When You Live Away

Anna Farmery — Mon, 09 Jul 2007 20:00:48 +0000

I have just spoken with my mum who is “having a bad day”. It makes me feel so useless as a daughter, she has been so strong in dealing with the loss of dad. Loneliness is such an awful feeling and I want to take that pain away. I wish I could pop in and give her a hug – if you do live away, I still think you can reach out and help

I ring each day and let her download – listening is an underrated tool
I send an occasional card with words of support.
I tell her how much I love her each day
We arrange visits well in advance so she always has something to look forward to…
I send her CD’s of her favourite music to play.

I may not be able to be there in person, but I can be there in her heart each day.

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The Start of a New Week

Anna Farmery — Sun, 13 May 2007 20:07:51 +0000

Today is the start of a whole new set of experiences, a whole new set of emotions and it is not what happens but rather our reaction to them that will be important. Here is how I want to START the week!

S= Smile and make the whole world a better place.

T= Thank someone just for being them

A= Arrange to visit someone who you haven’t seen for a while or who is feeling down and give value to their life

R= Remember our lost loves in a positive way, for all the right reasons. The happiness they brought rather than the pain you are feeling

T = Take a moment to do something that is purely for YOU.As a celebration for the fact that you are surviving, that you are learning and that you are special.

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The Effect of Grief

Anna Farmery — Wed, 02 May 2007 12:17:47 +0000

I wanted to share a comment that Anne left on the blog this week. Her words are powerful and I am sure that we can all relate to them

“Grief has an effect on us and each one of us takes his/her own journey through that valley. People often say they feel so alone, and letting them see that they are surrounded by family ( who also grieve in their own way), is empowering. Emotions are raw and when someone dies in our family it reminds us that we are mortal and makes many anxious. It is a normal human reaction to go through shock, pain of separation, depression and gradually up towards adjusting to life without that person in it. The people we love, our family and those who have died, will still be part of our history, they shared a path with us and we can keep them in our hearts and remember those times with fondness.”

She finishes the post by saying today is a good day to tell the people around you that you love them – before it is too late…wonderful words.

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A Poem for the Love of our Mother

Anna Farmery — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 21:04:36 +0000

I am a member of the Yahoo Group for grief and someone posted this poem which I thought was beautiful and wanted to share with you all

Your Mother is always with you
She’s the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street,
She’s the smell of certain foods you remember,

flowers you pick and perfume that she wore.
She’s the cool hand on your brow when you’re not feeling well.
She’s your breath in the air on a Cold winter’s day.
She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of a rainbow.
She is Christmas morning. Your Mother lives inside your laughter.
And she’s crystallized in every tear drop.
A mother shows every emotion……….
Happiness, sadness, fear, jealousy, love, hate, anger,

helplessness, excitement, joy, sorrow…..

and all the while, hoping and praying you will only know the Good feelings in life.
She’s the place you came from, your first home,

and she’s the map You follow with every step you take.
She’s your first love, your first friend, even your first enemy,

but nothing On earth can separate you.
Not time, not space…….not even death!

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I love my mum

Anna Farmery — Mon, 05 Mar 2007 20:35:10 +0000

I love my mum and even more since Dad died. She is a born worrier and not the easiest person but her unconditional love has supported me throughout the years. Today she got diagnosed with a heart complaint and though I don’t think it is a major concern at this stage – she is 76 mind you (on the left in the photo) – it makes you wonder. Losing dad was hard and I cannot imagine life without mum. Grief in the past makes you realise how much a loss affects you. Normally I wouldn’t worry but now I know that parents are not eternal. They grow older and you never know when the unexpected will happen.

I want to make sure that I have no regrets and therefore I have given myself 3 actions

Tell her I love her more often
Be there for her whenever I can – I live about 1.5 hours away from her
Help her love life over whatever – hopefully years – that she has left.

If there is a positive that you can take from bereavement it is that you never undervalue a life again, a life of someone you love is precious….my motto…don’t put off until tomorrow what you can say today.

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