Widows Quest » recovering from loss http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Sat, 19 Dec 2009 20:03:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 en hourly 1 10 Words Which Don’t Help Our Grief http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/10-words-which-dont-help-our-grief/ http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/10-words-which-dont-help-our-grief/#comments Wed, 03 Jun 2009 18:49:55 +0000 Anna Farmery http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1497 Post from: Widows Quest

]]> Words are powerful and can effect the way we feel – I am a long believer that it is not really what others say to us that affects our mood but what we say to ourselves! Here are 1O words or phrases that we need to stay clear during our bereavement

  1. If only….
  2. I can’t…
  3. But….
  4. Why him/her?
  5. There is no point…
  6. I will never get over this….
  7. I can’t cope..
  8. Maybe if I had….
  9. I wish I had said/did..

and of course 10) I will never love again…..

The more that we repeat these words, the more we will believe them…they are all natural to say, they stem from the pain of grief however we need to find a way of changing I can’t to I can, from I will not to I will….to start the process of recovering from our loss.

Would you add any words to this list?

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