B = Being there to let it cry as crying relieves the pain

R = Remembering that even when a vase breaks, all it needs is some glue to put it back together. That glue in grief is hope, love and friendship

E = Enjoyment. Your heart needs to balance pain with enjoyment. Enjoyment is the fuel for it to grow and mend. Don’t feel guilty about laughing, going out …..your heart needs that to mend that break, it needs the fuel of life to cope with death. No matter how down you feel try and do one thing that will bring some joy…a walk, a telephone call, a film…

A = Allow the pain don’t hold it in, yet try and control that downward spiral. Allowing times to grieve is so important but so is forcing yourself through that pain barrier to live again…no one else can do that just you…and you know all of us don’t believe that our hearts will ever mend, but in time the break becomes a fracture, that becomes a crack, that becomes a chink – and although it still hurts it can help you grow into a wiser person

K = Keep believing in yourself. Your strength is immeasurable, look at what you have faced already! Human beings are resilient and if we keep going, if we keep believing that joy will come again. To help this bereavement process then give yourself something to look forward to…a holiday, a manicure, a new outfit, a doughnut on a Friday!…Always remember

One beat at a time…

One step at a time

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Looking at the photo and smiling

Remembering to say I would love to come, rather than we

Sleeping for more than a couple of hours a night

Not having to think of one good reason why you should get up

Not crying when you see couples together

Not putting his favourite meal in the shopping basket

 So how would you finish the phrase recovery is……..  

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Why is it that life throws these things at you ? I know the two problems are not life or death, I know that but it has just shaken all that strength that I had built up. I feel as though life doesn’t want me to get stronger, I feel life when it sees my coping just throws more day to day problems to test that resolve…..

Yes I know I am feeling sorry for myself….stupid really….and I have to dig deep. I think what makes it worse is that the broadband he would have sorted out…so it makes me miss him more.

What’s that phrase onward and upward…..I think at times like this you can do one of 2 things – crumble and let life engulf you or realise that these are here to test you and try not to fail that test.

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Children often find expressing their emotions difficult so allow them to use music, art, writing for them to explain to you their thoughts.

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