When someone dies your partner in life has gone, the dividing of chores disappears – suddenly you have to face it all, on your own.

However, I have been stunned at how I have coped, of how my mother has coped, of how those widows and widowers around me have coped. Human beings are incredibly resilient – you can and will cope.

I suppose my lesson is because inside all of us is that ability to cope, trust to rely on yourself, trust in your values, in your abilities, in your future. For when we do, we will be amazed at how we stand up to be counted and learn to deal with all the problems we face…

This post was inspired by speaking to Roz Savage who has rowed the Atlantic and now is trying to become the first woman to row the Pacific Ocean would you believe – when faced with challenges she faced the fear and used it as motivation to spend the rest of her life following her passion. You can hear the interview here in two parts

Face the Fear Part 1

Face the Fear Part 2

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She helped me see through the darkness and see that 2009 was a year in which we could all define our success, our own happiness and she sent me this quote from Chidinma Obietikponah

Always show the you in you that makes you the you that you are.

Somehow in grief you can often forget who you are, and what makes you special…I think this quote should be placed around our houses to ensure we remember…..two may have become one, however there is wonder inside that one if we just believe in ourselves….

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