In grief there is this feeling of lacking control. Someone has taken the love of your life from you and thrown at you – money worries, loneliness, emptiness, lack of purpose, lack of energy etc
I remember feeling totally out of control and sensing that I didn’t know which way to turn. If I went out – I felt sad. If I stayed in  – I felt sad. I was suddenly one, or more specifically a two minus one. You know that feeling, the sense that although you are your own human being, part of your soul is missing. A couple …read more

Just replied to an invitation which asked are you a one or a two? It made me feel sad. Clearly the invitation was not written by a widow or widower, as numbers to people not bereaved, are maybe just numbers…..but to those grieving numbers mean a little more. Just jotted on a piece of paper, whilst I watched the kettle boil, a few lines…..maybe you understand my feelings?  
I started life just as a one,
Part of a family but still just a single… one.
Then I met you and one became two
But now you are gone, what do I do?
I …read more

Here we are at the start of a new week and as always we take a look at articles that will help us overcome our grief and depression.

Metaliphe presents Sad or Depressed? posted at Chandra Unplugged – No nonsense, Straight-up blogging from a Life Coach, saying, “Are you really depressed or are you just sad? If you’ve been told you’re depressed but just feel really sad, learn the difference between clinical depression and normal sadness.”

Charles H. Green presents How to Increase Trust by Getting Off Your “S” posted at Trusted Advisor Associates, saying, “Self-orientation can be the biggest obstacle …read more

After not feeling too well this week, I am definitely in the mood for articles that will help me get back on track with my life. So here is this weeks blog carnival on positive thinking

Dr. Neill Neill presents Facing a Possible Death in the Family: Surviving the Emotional Roller Coaster Ride and Making Room for Healing posted at Practical Psychology for Capable People, saying, “A year and a half ago I lost a son to cancer. About three weeks ago I lost another son, this time to heart failure following personal neglect while abusing drugs. I wrote this article …read more

This weekend we are going to the seaside where we have placed a memorial chair looking out to sea. Dad used to spend hours with his binoculars looking at the ships going by and there was no more fitting tribute that we could think of…
It will be a sad time in one way, but Dad was always someone who loved a good story, loved a good laugh…so we try and keep that tradition alive. When I am with my mum, it seems OK but I know when I drive home I will be remembered about all the pain of …read more

Have you noticed how the small things can really affect you on a daily basis? I am learning to cope with the loss of a partner, a friend – that coping is better on some days rather than others but in general I am slowly coming to terms with it. When I get thrown it is over the smallest things, for instance little jobs around the house or tasks that I would never have done…  
One thing that I have done is to change the way that I approach the task..for instance, I have never been a decorator. I would …read more

In yesterdays positive thinking carnival there was a post from Walt on Pain is a Highly Concentrated Thought. This had a lasting effect on me especially the quote “The solution to that would be to not think so much on a bad experience, but rather if the thought comes up, think about what good it did for you.” The post goes on to say
“Remember that time when you had a headache or your foot hurt? It hurt and hurt mainly due to your concentration on the pain. But, when your focus and attention shifted to something else, the more you …read more

T Welcome to the February 18, 2007 edition of positive thinking.
ananga presents Moments of Tranquility – Breath Counting posted at Answers from Ayurveda, saying, “Relaxation and meditation exercise for inviting calm – with free MP3 instructions and meditation music”
Deb Serani presents The Broken Heart Syndrome: AKA Stress Cardiomyopathy posted at Dr. Deborah Serani, saying, “This post looks at Broken Heart Syndrome”
Debra Moorhead presents What Would Your Future Self Be Doing Right Now? posted at Debra Moorhead.com.
Matthew Paulson presents Why Focused Intensity Is All You Need posted at Getting Green.
Nneka presents Waiting On The World To Change posted at Balanced …read more

Welcome to the February 4, 2007 edition of positive thinking.
Chris presents Social Skills And How To Improve Them posted at How to be Cooler.
Barbara presents If it’s worth it you’ll do it posted at Middle Age Shed 
John Payne presents Magic Beans posted at ix3 Sports, saying, “Using the power of words to change your internal and external circumstances.”
John presents Where There?s Life, There?s Hope posted at OhCash.com, saying, “You can always achieve something as long as you’re alive, and any problem can be solved at any time. Health is the most important thing you can have in your …read more

Welcome to the January 28, 2007 edition of positive thinking.
Debra Moorhead presents You Can Change the World, One Day, One Task at a Time posted at Debra Moorhead.com, saying, “This is not an original article, but it fits well with your purpose. Enjoy!”
Ananga Sivyer presents Paying into the Blessings Bank posted at Answers from Ayurveda.
burningchrome presents How To Snap Yourself Out of a Funk posted at SmartCoolRich – Consolidated Privileged Information.
Shamelle presents Dale Carnegie Guide To A Happier YOU posted at Enhance Life.
Anna presents Would you let your money lose interest? posted at The Engaging Brand.
Katie presents …read more