I remember feeling totally out of control and sensing that I didn’t know which way to turn. If I went out – I felt sad. If I stayed in  – I felt sad. I was suddenly one, or more specifically a two minus one. You know that feeling, the sense that although you are your own human being, part of your soul is missing. A couple is not two ‘ones’ but one ‘two’ – does that make sense?

When you feel out of control there is only one way out…and that is to take control one step at a time. It can be as simple as starting to pay debts on direct debit or as complex as moving house. But even small steps give you that reassurance that you can deal with grief, that you can take back the control that life snatched from you…

The answer is in the sentence….it is a feeling of being out of control not a reality

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I started life just as a one,

Part of a family but still just a single… one.

Then I met you and one became two

But now you are gone, what do I do?

I loved being together, I loved being a two

I can’t imagine being a one, no not without you.

To some, one and two are just numbers you see

Yet one is alone coping with grief

And two is no longer a reality for me

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Metaliphe presents Sad or Depressed? posted at Chandra Unplugged – No nonsense, Straight-up blogging from a Life Coach, saying, “Are you really depressed or are you just sad? If you’ve been told you’re depressed but just feel really sad, learn the difference between clinical depression and normal sadness.”

Charles H. Green presents How to Increase Trust by Getting Off Your “S” posted at Trusted Advisor Associates, saying, “Self-orientation can be the biggest obstacle to happiness and good relations with others, because when you start thinking of other people first, you tend to do the right thing instinctively.”

Chris Edgar presents What Have You Got To “Show For” Your Life? posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “The conventional wisdom that we need something to “show” for everything we do assumes we can only improve our lives by acquiring more material things and relationships. It neglects our ability to feel more fulfilled and complete by changing the way we experience the world — how we think and feel about the events of our lives.”

Emore Ogho presents The Secret posted at Emog.

Shirley presents Humor is great medicine. posted at Brighter Days for you and me!, saying, “During all the chaos, fear, uncertainty and confusion, I seemed to have temporarily lost all the humor skills I gained over the past few years. Only after becoming completely frazzled, did my humor button seem to start working again. You know how sometimes you laugh so hard you cry? Well, sometimes you get so worn out and overwhelmed that the least little joke will having you laughing like a loon.”

Neelakantha presents Relax: 50+ Simple 30-Second Ways to Bring Tranquility To Your Life posted at Online Nursing Degree Directory.

Gary Evans presents Love Music? Listen To Music That Loves You posted at Good To Feel Good.

Nancy Hayssen presents What Drains Your Soul? posted at “Sexy at ANY Size!”.

Louise Manning presents Quotes about dignity posted at The Human Imprint.

Shamelle presents 8 Stress-Busting, Spirit Lifting, Body-Boosting Ideas To Brighten Your Day With Music posted at Enhance Life.

David B. Bohl presents Personal Development Defined posted at Slow Down Fast Today!, saying, “Personal development is simply the act of enjoying your life and of being in control of it. You learn to make decisions every day that guide you towards achieving a set of goals or values, and remaining motivated to achieve your goals.”

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Dr. Neill Neill presents Facing a Possible Death in the Family: Surviving the Emotional Roller Coaster Ride and Making Room for Healing posted at Practical Psychology for Capable People, saying, “A year and a half ago I lost a son to cancer. About three weeks ago I lost another son, this time to heart failure following personal neglect while abusing drugs. I wrote this article while he was in hospital.”

Dr. Neill Neill presents Facing the Death of a Son posted at Practical Psychology for Capable People, saying, “I wrote this article three weeks after my son died. I leave shortly for his memorial service on April 28.”

GP presents Meditation in Cathedrals of our Own posted at Innstyle Montana- Come on Inn, saying, “Being out in nature in the outdoors gives one the chance for meditation in “cathedrals of our own”"

Joel Chue presents How to Create a Self Hypnosis Recording posted at SELF HYPNOSIS: Weight Loss, Quit Smoking Self Hypnosis!.

Dr. Joe Capista presents Why can’t I achieve my goals? posted at The Success Triangle, saying, “If you want what you say you do, you have to set goals. It’s not that difficult and the results will amaze you. Get a blank book. On each page write down your goals in a specific category and date it.
Not only should you write your goals down, you must review them morning and night. Write your primary goals on a 3 x 5 card to make the review time more targeted. Doing this will keep you on target with what you want.”

MCA presents Health Effects Of Caffeine | My Caffeine Addiction posted at Caffeine Addiction, saying, “If you are not aware of the health effects of caffeine, you should learn about them before you pour that next cup of coffee.”

GreatManagement presents “I’ll Start Tomorrow” posted at The GreatManagement Blog, saying, ““I am struggling to make progress to meet my goals. How do you suggest I make the right progress?””

Gary Evans presents Law of Attraction 101 posted at Good To Feel Good.

gia combs-ramirez presents How to Immediately Eliminate the Effects of Stress posted at The Science of Energy Healing, saying, “With a simple technique you can immediately lower your blood pressure, improve your immune system, release endorphins, and become more positive. And it’s fun!”

Frederic Premji presents 9 Effective Ways To Get Out Of A Rut posted at BlogMotivation.com, saying, “Great article about simple methods to get back on track ”

Chris Edgar presents Defending Our “Loserhood” With All We’ve Got posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “It seems there’s no idea people will defend more fiercely than the notion that they aren’t good enough human beings. Why do we defend ourselves against giving up these painful thoughts? I’ve come to believe it’s because, consciously or otherwise, we see these ideas as part of who we are. We need these ideas, we think, to be complete human beings—losing them would be like losing some part of our bodies. In this article, I provide some exercises you can use to detach yourself from these thoughts and draw nearer to inner peace.”

Charles H. Green presents What’s Your Trust Quotient? posted at Trusted Advisor Associates, saying, “Do others trust you? Should they? Take the trust test, find out, and learn how to become even more trustworthy.”

A Girl presents Going off SSRI’s posted at A Girl Smiles, saying, “I’m just starting a blog about going off antidepressants, and how to stay happy without them.”

Alex Blackwell presents The Secret to Life in One Sentence or Less posted at The Next 45 Years.

Scott.Goolsby presents Limiting Beliefs Are So Last Year! posted at Unapologetic Genius, saying, “Overcoming limiting beliefs.”

Metaliphe presents Sad or Depressed? posted at Chandra Unplugged – No nonsense, Straight-up blogging from a Life Coach, saying, “Are you really depressed or are you just sad? If you’ve been told you’re depressed but just feel really sad, learn the difference between clinical depression and normal sadness.”

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It will be a sad time in one way, but Dad was always someone who loved a good story, loved a good laugh…so we try and keep that tradition alive. When I am with my mum, it seems OK but I know when I drive home I will be remembered about all the pain of grief. So what I have done is recorded his favourite upbeat songs so I can sing a long in the car…just like he used to do!

Where do you remember your loved one?

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One thing that I have done is to change the way that I approach the task..for instance, I have never been a decorator. I would love to be able to afford someone to come in but finances are tight. So what I did was talk to some friends, explained that I found it hard to start it as it brought back memories and also heartache at his absence. One friend then said…”Why not have a decorating party..we bring brushes and a smile and you provide the refreshment!”

Suddenly, something that seemed so sad turned into one that brought laughter. When you need to tackle something that causes you pain – see if you can approach it differently to try and help your grief.

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“Remember that time when you had a headache or your foot hurt? It hurt and hurt mainly due to your concentration on the pain. But, when your focus and attention shifted to something else, the more you had your attention away from your pain, the less pain you felt!”

At first I thought….uhm hitting your foot is hardly the same as losing your loved one…and then as I started to think more about it, it is true. Look through my blog posting, it is about filling that void in your life with other things to look forward to, in this context an opportunity to move the focus of your pain onto something that creates enjoyment. As hard as it seems, the post is right. We can concentrate too hard on the pain that we are feeling and not enough on something that can create a diversion, a moment of relief. Maybe we don’t like to think of it like that, but in reality we all need to find a focus…..

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ananga presents Moments of Tranquility – Breath Counting posted at Answers from Ayurveda, saying, “Relaxation and meditation exercise for inviting calm – with free MP3 instructions and meditation music”

Deb Serani presents The Broken Heart Syndrome: AKA Stress Cardiomyopathy posted at Dr. Deborah Serani, saying, “This post looks at Broken Heart Syndrome”

Debra Moorhead presents What Would Your Future Self Be Doing Right Now? posted at Debra Moorhead.com.

Matthew Paulson presents Why Focused Intensity Is All You Need posted at Getting Green.

Nneka presents Waiting On The World To Change posted at Balanced Life Center.

Shamelle presents How To Easily (and Lazily!) Make Your Loved One Feel Special posted at Enhance Life.

MabelandHarry presents Handling Pressure posted at MabelandHarry 

Talia Mana presents Can Blogging reduce Depression? posted at Emotional Well-Being, saying, “Talia interviews new blogger Therese Borchard on depression and anxiety, her writing, spirituality, motherhood and how blogging is helping her stay sane.”

Walt presents Pain is a Highly Concentrated Thought posted at Walt Nation!.

Michael Cavano presents Follow Your Purpose posted at SubSun Records . com.

presents The Best Way to Help People posted at OptmistLab.com, saying, “The most empowering thing you can ever do for someone is to honor their particular journey.

Hueina Su presents Celebrating YOU: The Leading Lady of Your Show posted at Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul, saying, “Remember, you are the Leading Lady and director of your own show. You are in charge and fully responsible for how your show turns out to be. If your show is competing for the Academy Award of Life, which categories will it be nominated? Which awards will you win?”

Craig Harper presents So, You’ve Decided to Get in Shape….. Again (Part One) posted at Renovate your life with Craig, saying, “What if losing weight ain’t that complex?

Barbra Sundquist presents Who Pushes Your Buttons? posted at HomeBusinessWiz.

Barbra Sundquist presents Tied to Joy…With A Simple Piece of String posted at WelcomeJoy.com.

Maria Yu presents Monet and Eternal Expression posted at Life.

Christine Kane presents It Might Be Time to Take a Risk if… posted at Christine Kane.

Moses E. Miles III presents How to Start Your Day off Right posted at Three Sticks – www.mosesedwardmilesiii.com – Empowering, Teaching, Healing.

Reb Chaim HaQoton presents Tithes and Charities posted at Reb HaQoton.

Raymond David Salas presents How to Solve All of Your Problems posted at ZenChill.com – Power Tools for Mind, Body, and Soul.

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Chris presents Social Skills And How To Improve Them posted at How to be Cooler.

Barbara presents If it’s worth it you’ll do it posted at Middle Age Shed 

John Payne presents Magic Beans posted at ix3 Sports, saying, “Using the power of words to change your internal and external circumstances.”

John presents Where There?s Life, There?s Hope posted at OhCash.com, saying, “You can always achieve something as long as you’re alive, and any problem can be solved at any time. Health is the most important thing you can have in your life. If you have health, possibilities are infinite. It should be your #1 priority in your existence.”

Debra Moorhead presents 18 Ways to Jump-Start Your Life posted at Debra Moorhead.com.

Wilson Ng presents Its About How Hard you Take The Hits and Still Keep Moving posted at Reflections of a BizDrivenLife.

Tupelo Kenyon presents Manifestation Fill-in-the-Blank Affirmation posted at Tupelo Kenyon.

Anna presents Personal Branding at The Engaging Brand

Millennium Mommy presents Are You on Autopilot? posted at Priscilla Ortiz – Journal to Prosperity, Path to Freedom Inc., saying, “Being on auto pilot is no way to live your life!”

The Probabilist presents Doing too Much of What You Love? posted at The Probabilist . com.

almomento presents Three Things To Do To Snap Out Of Depression. posted at BurstCreativity.

Niels Hoven presents Ask Niels: How do I keep a conversation going? posted at Niels Hoven.

Jordan Shannon presents How Positive Thinking Works | Self Development Blog posted at Self Development Blog.

Aaron M. Potts presents Do You Deserve it, or are You Mistaken? posted at Today is that DAy.

Craig Harper presents Where did the Dreamer go? posted at Renovate your life with Craig, saying, “Life has a great way of sucking the creativity energy out of you, if you let it. So how can you turn it around…”

Maria Yu presents About Beauty posted at Life, saying, “art-life-spirit.com”

Andrew Mason presents Chapter 2 – Introducing the GTD Methodology posted at Did I Get Things Done?.

Michael Estep, Ph.D. presents Mike Estep.com – Common Sense Outside the Box posted at Intuitive Feeling-Learning.

Scott Lee presents 20 Ways to Improve Your Life and Health posted at Dirty Mechanism.

Think Happy Thoughts Happiness Blog presents Look for What You Want to Find posted at Miguel Trujillo, saying, “How your brain can help you find happiness.”

David Maister presents Islamic Saying posted at Passion, People and Principles.

Charles H. Green presents Trust Tip 16: Get Beyond Fairness posted at Trust Matters, saying, “Fairness is 50/50. Leave it behind. Go hang out in the 80/20 territory.”

Alan presents What Success really is posted at Made to Be Great.

Moses E. Miles III presents Finding A New Career – The Importance of Understanding And Accepting Yourself posted at Three Sticks – www.mosesedwardmilesiii.com – Empowering, Teaching, Healing.

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Debra Moorhead presents You Can Change the World, One Day, One Task at a Time posted at Debra Moorhead.com, saying, “This is not an original article, but it fits well with your purpose. Enjoy!”

Ananga Sivyer presents Paying into the Blessings Bank posted at Answers from Ayurveda.

burningchrome presents How To Snap Yourself Out of a Funk posted at SmartCoolRich – Consolidated Privileged Information.

Shamelle presents Dale Carnegie Guide To A Happier YOU posted at Enhance Life.

Anna presents Would you let your money lose interest? posted at The Engaging Brand.

Katie presents Quit doubting yourself and tap into your assets already posted at Aridni, saying, “Thanks for hosting!”

Debra Moorhead presents 9 Ways to Increase Your Energy Level posted at Debra Moorhead.com.

Karl Staib presents I’ve Decided My Job is Now My Hobby posted at 10,000 Swimming Pools Inside Our Minds.

Matthew Paulson presents Your Money: Why Focused Intensity Is All You Need posted at Getting Green.

Maria Yu presents How Not to Gain Weight posted at Life.

Karen Lynch presents Expectations posted at LivethePower.

Craig Harper presents Beliefs posted at Renovate your life with Craig, saying, “We handicap ourselves if we’re not regularly re-assessing all, or some, of our beliefs. Don’t believe something just because your dad did. Maybe your dad was wrong! Too many people struggle through life, crippled by their destructive beliefs. Self-imposed (totally unnecessary) limitations.”

oovs presents 10 Days to a Better Life posted at LifeTraining – Online

MabelandHarry presents Lesson from Tiger Woods at MabelandHarry.

almomento presents Balance Your Life With a Feng Shui Cleanse posted at BurstCreativity.

Talia Mana presents Pursuit of money linked to depression posted at Emotional Well-Being, saying, “Affluenza, an obsessive, envious, keeping-up-with-the-Joneses pursuit of money, can lead to depression, anxiety and unhappiness.”

David Maister presents Relationships and Romance – new careers podcast episode posted at Passion, People and Principles, saying, “The 6 Rules of Romance can help make all of your relationships more mutually supportive and fulfulling.”

Raymond David Salas presents How to Have Beginner’s Luck posted at ZenChill.com – Power Tools for Mind, Body, and Soul, saying, “Beginner’s luck will keep you in a positive state-of-mind.”

Sean J. Vaughan (on behalf of the author Dan Barker) presents Dancing with Death posted at Reason and Rhyme, saying, “In this colorful painting, Jacquelinne White depicts a woman in the autumn of her years gently and courageously “dancing” with death.”

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