Widows Quest » sleepless-nights http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Thu, 24 Dec 2009 16:54:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 en hourly 1 The Spiritual Journey of Grief http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-spiritual-journey-of-grief/ http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-spiritual-journey-of-grief/#comments Wed, 15 Jul 2009 14:45:16 +0000 Anna Farmery http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1587 Post from: Widows Quest

]]> Grief changes you, I cannot believe that someone can go through a death close to them and not be affected. Often we can concentrate on the bad aspects of grief – of which there are many – sleepless nights, pain, depression etc However, there are good ways that grief affects us.

I know that I have gone on what I can only call a spiritual journey. I have changed. Grief has removed trivial insecurities and also my desire to see what in reality are small problems as major life issues. So I am now much more patient for instance in traffic jams! After all, there is nothing I can do about it and in reality is it a HUGE worldwide problem…no.

I often wish that he could see how his death has changed me….I am a better person, I know that….

On the other hand those insecurities have been replaced with a loss of confidence but that loss is related to his death and wouldn’t be there if I hadn’t lost him.

You know grief is a natural part of life. We may concentrate on how grief affects us in a bad way but lets not forget how it changes us for the better. Moreover if it hasn’t changed us for the better…why not? Surely when we lose something so dear we must learn to value the most important thing in life – love, friendship etc

Grief will change us – let us make sure that the net difference is a positive one :)

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]]> http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-spiritual-journey-of-grief/feed/ 3 10 Things to Do When You Cannot Sleep http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/10-things-to-do-when-you-cannot-sleep/ http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/10-things-to-do-when-you-cannot-sleep/#comments Tue, 15 Jan 2008 13:49:56 +0000 Anna Farmery http://www.widowsquest.com/10-things-to-do-when-you-cannot-sleep/ Post from: Widows Quest

]]> The most asked question that I get asked is about those nights when you just cannot sleep and I wish I had a solution, but I don’t! Here are 10 things that I would suggest, that have worked for me when I have struggled to sleep – most tire you out so you are ready for some shut eye, but if you have any to share please leave a comment

  1. Read a book
  2. Clean out your wardrobe and put some order to it
  3. Make yourself a hot chocolate.agst
  4. Write a letter to yourself about your thoughts
  5. Put on your favourite relaxing CD
  6. Sleep in a different room – they say a change is as good as a rest!
  7. Look through the photo albums and allow your mind the chance to   remember
  8. Have a hot bath, with candles and relax
  9. Make a list of 10 goals you would like to achieve
  10. Curl up on the sofa and watch a black and white romantic movie and lose yourself in your thoughts

As I said there  is no right answer, it is what works for you. I always think if you cannot sleep, just get up and do something constructive, something that is tiring to help bring on the feeling of sleep. But what are you thoughts and tips of the widows trade?

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