It struck me today how widows and widows are often searching for meaning to their new lives, how they suffer because of that search for real “meaning”…….and I suddenly realised the irony!
To be mean, is to be awful…..when we are searching for that meaning we can often be cruel to our own heart, mind and soul. We take them on a dark path, often depressive of nature in the hope that in the darkest moment we will find something bright…how ironic that the word mean has two such different definitions and yet so both true during the grief cycle.
Maybe we …read more

On a recent blog post Emotional Pain and Hurt, I told the story of how grief overwhelmed me and how I was given a second chance at life. I thought long and hard before I wrote that blog post because that is a private story of my bereavement that I haven’t wanted to tell before…it was too raw, too painful.
I told it because of the widow who wrote to me not knowing how to cope with her loss. I hoped to help her….and yet, in a way I think I helped my own grief. That story has been buried deep …read more

Loss by definition means that something is missing in your life. It illustrates the gap that is left in your life, in your heart, in your soul. But you know when looking at your new life, remember that no matter what happens there are always counter balances.
Grief can also lead to gains in your life.
You have lost your life partner, yet gained a heart that knows how to love
You have lost the person who gave you the strength to face life, but gained the knowledge that you have that strength inside of you
You have lost the chance to do things …read more