Each week I post articles to help widows and widowers cope with grief and think more positively about the future. Here is this weeks Carnival of Positive Thinking

Suzanne presents Happiness in 7 steps: Step 1 – I am OK as I am posted at Without Dash.

SmallTownSim presents Even when… posted at Joy’s Journey To Wellness, saying, “In the entry titled, “Even when…” The author shares the struggles she faces daily but allows us to witness her determination in dealing with each challenge.”

GP presents You Gotta Get Out of Your Kitchen « Musings from Montana posted at Manely Montana, saying, “Sometimes, …read more

Here we are at another Sunday, well done to all of us and getting through another week…but if we are going to move from surviving to thriving, to move past the grief then we need to be motivated to get past the loneliness. Here are this weeks articles to help widows, and widowers

ananga presents How to Use Your Breath to Relax Your Mind posted at Ananga Sivyer’s Living by Design Blog, saying, “If your mind is behaving like a kid in a waiting room and is really having trouble keeping still and quiet, you need to learn to distract it …read more

I try and go to the gym most days as a way of getting all those positive emotions to flow through this brain of mine! Today my legs were tired, really tired….the muscles were aching and they had no energy. Did I listen ? Of course not and off I went to the gym…after a few moments I realised that I had pulled a muscle
That made me think. The heart is a muscle, it aches when it is tired, it aches when it needs rest time. When we are grieving we are putting so much stress on our …read more

I wrote a post called Who I am, or More Accurately Who am I and Jessica left a comment which will resonate to all widows and widowers out there, including
“There is only me and I will turn 60 in July without my best friend (and younger spouse) there beside me. I don’t think I have a day where the tears do not well up. I am so alone and so lonely, too.”
Loneliness is awful, it is like a stream running through your body, swirling around and catching you off guard. I want to stress that this blog is home to …read more

We all need some help in moving through the grief cycle, each Sunday I post articles that will help with our positive thinking and help us through the depression

Sheamus presents What Does It Mean To Live Well? posted at i am shéamus.

ananga presents The Simple Art of Anti-Stress Breathing posted at Ananga Sivyer’s Living by Design Blog, saying, “When stress feels normal we forget how to relax and we forget how to breathe. We get used to muscle pain and tension. We may develop mystery abdominal pains as we upset the balancing energies of our bodies, our sleep becomes disturbed …read more

Here we are at the start of a new week and as always we take a look at articles that will help us overcome our grief and depression.

Metaliphe presents Sad or Depressed? posted at Chandra Unplugged – No nonsense, Straight-up blogging from a Life Coach, saying, “Are you really depressed or are you just sad? If you’ve been told you’re depressed but just feel really sad, learn the difference between clinical depression and normal sadness.”

Charles H. Green presents How to Increase Trust by Getting Off Your “S” posted at Trusted Advisor Associates, saying, “Self-orientation can be the biggest obstacle …read more

I received a wonderful email from someone who has lost his wife and asked me about how to cope when the family starts to quarrel over the death.
Wow, a huge question and one that really does depend on the situation but here are my thoughts..
I think we often as human beings need to be right, when what we need to do is understand that there is often not just a single right answer. Each person is different, although we have common bonds in a family, each family consists of individuals….
Each person will grieve at a different rate, some with anger…others …read more

I always think about a Chinese proverb -
“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are”
When I look back at the time of death, I can remember the tension in my body. I remember thinking “Be strong” “Don’t break down you have too much to do” “Don’t cry when you tell people as they will be shocked and need you to be there for them”
I remember carrying the burden of the world on my shoulders, until one day after the funeral when I just sat and cried my eyes out. What I realised is that tension …read more

I received an email from someone who is speaking at a funeral this week and wanted my tips on how to cope with the stress and pressure whilst you are grieving. I thought I would share the speaking tips

I concentrated on seeing this as speaking on his behalf, this was not about me or my nerves this   was about speaking on behalf of my loved one. This gave me the strength to do it…I wanted to”do him proud”
I wrote the speech straight from the heart, I thought about what he would want me to say and wrote it as …read more

Alex Marlin presents 11 Tips To Getting Anything You Want posted at Life Improvement Tips For Thin and Small People.

Blaine presents Before you love someone, learn to love yourself posted at BlainePower.com, saying, “Often times people fail in life because their lack of self-love encourages them to do things unproductive and potentially harmful to themselves. This article emphasizes self-love, which is the cure for depression and bad decisions.”

Tupelo Kenyon presents How to Live the Life of Your Dreams Through Intuition posted at Tupelo Kenyon, saying, “Intuition feels good. That should be enough of a clue it’s something that …read more