Then just remember that together we can create that hope. This community has greater power than we can imagine…why? Well I know through the emails that people who felt suicidal have been helped by our tips, our grief and our hope. That is what keeps me going…that hope I feel through you.
“Hope is like a road in the country; there was never a road, but when many people walk on it, the road comes into existence.”
Lin Yutang
I often get asked “Where do I get the strength to carry on?” Well, often it is through the love you have gained, often …read more

I was touched by a story in the newspaper about a mother who lost her babies when her suicidal dad killed them. She had a piece of advice for use all. Kerrie Hughes said
 ”I would like to tell every mother that no matter how busy your days are, tell your babies how much you love them with a hug and a kiss every day”
So true, our busy lives often create complacency. We put off until tomorrow what we meant to say today. I do love this idea and I make sure that I live this each day now. I …read more

I spoke to mum today about what she would say were the 3 key things that helped her get over dad dying. Here are her 3 key steps

 Accepting his death. Accepting that it was better that he has gone than him suffering as much as he was…no matter how strong the pain, the pain would have been worse watching him suffer.
Allowing friends to persuade her to go out…”giving in” and as much as she did not want to go out, forcing herself into social situations.
The power of the telephone and talking to her friends – it provided comfort and also …read more

Today, I have felt so down. I cannot see anything but darkness, I couldn’t even remember where my keys were this morning – and I leave them in the same place everyday. Why do I share this with you, well…

I always try and write Widows Quest positively to help you see that there is a future. I hope that sharing my bad day will help you see that, you are not alone with the darkness. No matter how far you have come, no matter how hard you try, the darkness can fall – it happens to us all, you are …read more

We have all been there the feeling of total devastation – well I have just got an e-mail from a reader who says
“ I NEED HELP AND I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO.  My husband passed away 5 years ago and  I never dealt with it because I felt that I had to be strong for my children.  I turned to drink at the time although I have been sober for over a year. but things are not getting any better  – money, grief etc….. please tell me where to turn”
I am glad that she turned to us, I …read more