There are times when we all need help and one of the readers has just written this comment
“I am actually not a widow myself, but am seeking help for my 58 year old mother who lost her husband (my father) on may 17, 2005 after 29 years of marriage. he was diagnosed with stomach cancer just five months earlier, in january of that same year, so we didn’t have much time to say goodbye. the reason im here is that my mom hasn’t been dealing with her grief very well. she drinks, a lot, and no talking or comforting that …read more

I got a comment about how to meet new people. I think the first thing I would say is that just like something that you have lost and are looking for – if you search too hard then you cannot find it! For me, it is about putting yourself back in a social circle, enjoying the company and looking for friendship that may grow in the future. Some ideas that I have are

Join a local interest club – walking, pottery, heritage, music
Take a course – learning a language, computer skills, cookery – whatever you would like to learn.
Hold a themed …read more

Often when you are grieving you can isolate yourself from friends and indeed, family. Friends keep ringing   but then trail off over time. One thing has helped me is getting back in touch with people. Ringing them has been a relief to them as well. They often say they wanted to ring but didn’t know what to say, or whether I felt as though they were pestering…they didn’t know how to help.
We often forget that when we are grieving, it can be difficult for those around us as well. If you have lost touch then just pick up the …read more

I have received some great e-mails saying how this blog is helping to support broken hearts and grieving souls. I just wanted to add that writing this blog has helped ME so much. Writing about feelings, about how to turn your life around, writing about how to get through is a wonderful comfort. Thank you for helping to heal me too. 

I was reading an article that said that for a human effective support system you need
25% self support
20% partner support
55% support from outside the home
This is important. Often when a crisis hits us, we try and cope by ourself. This is not the best support. When you lose a loved one, you lose 20% of your support system and that needs to be relaced. This 20% needs to be shared between yourself and support from outside home through groups, friends, family. Of course, your emotional survivial needs your commitment to your health but don’t ignore the friends of others to …read more

This Sunday (November 5) is the 3rd anniversary of my loss and as part of my grieving process, and also as a way of honouring his memory I would like to post a special “Help Others” blog post. So I need your support and help. If you want to post on your blog on the subject of how to beat depression and getting your life back on track, then send me a link and we will have a positivity carnival!
I want Sunday to be a day when we help others, when we share ways of getting our life back on track, …read more