Not only do we suffer the ups and downs of bereavement, we also have to find various balances…

Balance of coping with letting our emotions out and losing control emotionally
Balance of remembering and not letting go.
Balance of not forgetting the past but learning to look to the future.
Balance of being grateful for having loved with the anger at losing the love of your life.
Balance of crying with pain and smiling to show that life goes on.
Balance of honouring the memory and allowing ourselves to feel love again.

There are many other balances like talking to friends but understanding that you cannot talk …read more

I was so sad to see the BBC news and hear about the death of Jane Tomlinson. The tributes were led by Gordon Brown who said ….
“he is “saddened” by the death of Jane Tomlinson following her seven-year battle with cancer.
He paid tribute to the charity fund-raiser’s “amazing spirit and strength” following her death on Monday at the age of 43. The married mother-of-three died at St Gemma’s Hospice in Leeds.She was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2000 and told she had just six months to live.”
Jane’s only desire was to raise the awareness of cancer, she spent …read more

Ever felt that nobody really understood your pain, ever felt alone, ever felt that there was nobody to talk to? Well….you are not alone….
The Monitor has an article on grief which gave this  fact
“Statistically, 12.5 million Americans are grieving a new death every year, Myers said.
The problem is, American society doesn’t let people talk about it, he said.”
Grief, depression, sense of loss…..horrific feeling. But please know that you are not alone, that pain you are feeling is “normal”, it is natural……and it will soften, personally I don’t think you ever lose it, but you learn to live with it …read more

As I do each Sunday night, I have gathered some posts that will help us face the next week. Grief is hard, these posts help show that there is a future for us all.

Chris Stevens presents Positive Thought for the day posted at Positive thoughts and more.

Matt presents Inner Purpose vs. Outer Purpose posted at EverydayChange.com saying, “Reflections on life purposes – inner purposes versus outer purposes.”

edithyeung presents I Have Confidence posted at Edith Yeung.Com: Dream.ThinkAct..

James Bishop presents 12 Ways to Care for a Depressed Person posted at Finding Optimism, saying, “The person with depression can’t see a …read more

I love this Sunday night’s regular blog carnival as it gives me a lift for the wee. Today it is even more special as it would have been Dad’s 83rd birthday and he was the most positive person I have ever known. He may have gone from our world but tonight I want this carnival to be dedicated to the man who who brought “positivity” to every aspect of his life. I miss and will always miss you Dad….

Albert Foong presents How to remove negative thoughts and tame your monkey mind, Part 1 posted at Urban Monk, saying, “Controlling your …read more

I always feel slightly uncomfortable when the news contains stories of famous people who died. I think it is because I think of all the ordinary people who have died, the soldiers etc who die without the world really knowing. The news that Ingmar Bergman the film director has died is intriguing for me because of his “dark films”His childhood had been strict and that lead to enormously emotional films. I was touched by this statement
“A lot happened when Ingrid died,” Nyrerod told The Associated Press. She said Bergman continued to feel the presence of von Rosen after she died, …read more

It is my mum’s birthday today, so she is staying with me and I remain so proud of the way she has coped since Dad died. Her health has not been wonderful but she is really trying to piece together a new life. She is 77 today and could so easily have said “I have nothing left to live for”. However she has

Joined a local village group that meets each Thursday for coffee.
Started to play bowls.
Been on a couple of cruises – Dad didn’t really like the idea of cruises so this is a real treat for her.
Learned to do …read more

To overcome the period of mourning, to overcome the hurt we need a great deal of inner belief.
B= Believe in your ability to cope with the pain and come through even stronger.
E= Expect to be happy again.
L=Learn to love again. Trust that the benefit of love is greater than the pain of loss.
I=Inspire your inner beliefs by setting goals for your future…inspirational goals that you can work towards.
E= Emotions. Understand your emotions, don’t fight them. Learn how to control them and what ma  kes you happy.
F= Face your problems – they will not go away, face them to face your …read more

I am reading a book about Eleanor Roosevelt at the moment and there are some very powerful quotations which I wanted to share with you.
“It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know.”
“We are happy together & strong relationships have to grow deep roots. We’re growing them now, partly because we are separated, the foliage and the flowers will come somehow I’m sure of it….Love is a queer thing, it hurts but it gives you so much in return.”
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”
“With the new …read more

Welcome to the July 20, 2007 edition of how to solve money worries.

ChristianPF presents How to make more money with your emergency fund posted at Money in the Bible | Christian Personal Finance Blog, saying, “A quick how-to showing you how to use an emergency fund to save more money and increase it’s growth rate.”

Millionaire Mommy Next Door presents Create Your Treasure Map To Riches posted at Millionaire Mommy Next Door, saying, “Visualizing what wealth means to you shapes the way your mind thinks about money and your life. Your mind then sets in motion the actions necessary to …read more