• Balance of coping with letting our emotions out and losing control emotionally
• Balance of remembering and not letting go.
• Balance of not forgetting the past but learning to look to the future.
• Balance of being grateful for having loved with the anger at losing the love of your life.
• Balance of crying with pain and smiling to show that life goes on.
• Balance of honouring the memory and allowing ourselves to feel love again.

There are many other balances like talking to friends but understanding that you cannot talk endlessly…the reason I talk about balance is that there will be times when the balance is not right…that is ok, as long as you learn to recognise it or have   friends that can help you regain that balance.

In fact when you think of all the emotional issues that you are trying to balance it is no wonder that one will occasionally become unbalanced. Just like the seesaw you need to either push yourself back up or release some weight of worry. However, just like a seesaw for each low remember there will be another high….

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He paid tribute to the charity fund-raiser’s “amazing spirit and strength” following her death on Monday at the age of 43. The married mother-of-three died at St Gemma’s Hospice in Leeds.She was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2000 and told she had just six months to live.”

Jane’s only desire was to raise the awareness of cancer, she spent her last years raising millions for charity. Biking across the US for example, despite her body failing.

The Bishop of Leeds, the Right Reverend Arthur Roche, described Mrs Tomlinson’s battle with cancer as “Olympian”.

He said: “She was a bright beam of light in the midst of a darkness that can so often accompany a terminal illness.

“She fought a very brave fight, of Olympian proportions, right to the end of her earthly life and has left us a legacy of courage when faced with difficulty; of striving for others despite one’s own important needs.”

Jane’s spirit is a lesson to all of us, we never know what cards we will be dealt with – but it is not what happens to us, it is how we deal with what happens that matters. Jane’s positive approach to life and death will mean a legacy that will live on forever……

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The Monitor has an article on grief which gave this  fact

“Statistically, 12.5 million Americans are grieving a new death every year, Myers said.
The problem is, American society doesn’t let people talk about it, he said.”

Grief, depression, sense of loss…..horrific feeling. But please know that you are not alone, that pain you are feeling is “normal”, it is natural……and it will soften, personally I don’t think you ever lose it, but you learn to live with it and also live again.

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Chris Stevens presents Positive Thought for the day posted at Positive thoughts and more.

Matt presents Inner Purpose vs. Outer Purpose posted at EverydayChange.com saying, “Reflections on life purposes – inner purposes versus outer purposes.”

edithyeung presents I Have Confidence posted at Edith Yeung.Com: Dream.ThinkAct..

James Bishop presents 12 Ways to Care for a Depressed Person posted at Finding Optimism, saying, “The person with depression can’t see a way forward. They fervently believe that nobody can help them, and life is pointless. That doesn’t mean that they’re right.”

Tupelo Kenyon presents Spiritually Thriving by Choice posted at Tupelo Kenyon, saying, “As we go through the motions of life, eventually it becomes apparent that what we have to do to get by needs to be balanced with our deep longing to thrive spiritually. Our activities need to be undertaken consciously. Our choices need to be made deliberately – with full awareness of the potential consequences as well as the potential rewards.”

Marc and Angel presents 10 Things We All Celebrate Subconsciously posted at Marc and Angel, saying, “There are certain intricacies in life that we all repeatedly and unintentionally celebrate on a regular basis. These celebrated incidents are composed of the smaller things in life, those seemingly inconsequential events that instantly place us in a better mood.”

Marc and Angel presents Here in the Real World: 20 Lessons for Life posted at Here you will find a list of 20 lessons I’ve learned in the “real world” thus far.”

James presents Why Immersion is the Essential Factor to Any Success Model posted at The Resourceful Mind, saying, “Why immersion works and how it should be used in combination with success models and strategies to achieve various goals, including financial abundance, successful relationships, physical fitness, etc.”

GP presents A Monthly Missive posted at Fish Creek House – INNside Innkeeping, saying, “Celebration of life’s changes”

Alvaro Fernandez presents Brain Training Games and “Games” posted at SharpBrains saying, “Explaining how to navigate through the growing number of “brain training” claims-some of which can be helpful for emotional self-regulation.”

Dominic Tay presents How To Deal With Negativity posted at Dominic Tay Dot Com.

Millionaire Mommy Next Door presents A Year’s Worth of Weekly Cheap Dates posted at Millionaire Mommy Next Door, saying, “I’ve created a list of 52 (weekly) fun and cheap dates. Perhaps I’ve come up with a few ideas you’d enjoy, too.”

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking.

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Albert Foong presents How to remove negative thoughts and tame your monkey mind, Part 1 posted at Urban Monk, saying, “Controlling your mind – comprehensive and practical tips from the most respected systems, given the special Urban Monk treatment!”

Fired up Phil presents
ATTITUDE Plays a Huge Role in Attaining Success And Living The Life of Your Dreams posted at firedupphil

SJ Yee presents 10 Secrets to Happiness I learnt from Andrew Matthews posted at Personal Development for the Book Smart, saying, “Always look on the bright side of life!”

Chris Stevens presents Positive Thought for the day posted at Positive thoughts and more.

edithyeung presents
12 Secrets to Establish Your Personal Creditability (Increase Your Personal Credit Score) posted at Edith Yeung.Com:Dream.Think.Act..

Tupelo Kenyon presents Action and Satisfaction posted at Tupelo Kenyon

James Bishop presents Anyone Know Why It’s Called the Idiot Box? posted at Finding Optimism, saying, “If you are like me and have a mood disorder, then the emotional roller coaster that TV offers is unhelpful to say the least.”

Shaula Evans presents My Friend Peter posted at The Agonist, saying, “I lived with Peter for 3 years and when I left he told me “my family has a custom where ever year we pick out someone to help and do so for the entire year, and sometimes longer. We know we do harm all the time. It’s not balance. But we hope it makes up.””

Corinne Edwards presents WIDOW posted at Personal Growth with Corinne Edwardssaying, “It is a real journey by a real person – not a psychololgist. As a new widow, there were few guidelines that were dedicated to the everydayness of adjusting to being alone in mid life.”

Raymond David Salas presents How to Manifest Your Desires Faster posted at ZenChill.com Power Tools Blog.

Alex Blackwell presents Success takes faith posted at The Next 45 Years.

Will Mitchell presents 6 Steps to Training your Subconscious Mind posted at www.SparkedBlog.com.

John Hill presents How to Be Happy posted at Universe Of Success.

Will Mitchell presents Quotes in History Referencing The Law of Attraction posted at www.SparkedBlog.com.

Golbguru presents 10 Simple Steps To Becoming Wealthy posted at Money, Matter, and More Musings, saying, “Beauty is in the simplicity. All you need to do is a develop a good savings habit, and you will be rich in time to come.”

Nneka presents Meditation Q&A: How Do You Meditate? posted at Balanced Life Center.

FitBuff presents New York Jets Listen to Mozart on the Football Field posted at FitBuff.com’s Total Mind and Body Fitness Blog, saying, “This is a very interesting article on “The Mozart Effect”, which many believe can increase your intelligence and mental stability, not to mention the long-standing notion that any classical music can improve your mood and put you in a state of calmness and relaxation.”

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our
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“A lot happened when Ingrid died,” Nyrerod told The Associated Press. She said Bergman continued to feel the presence of von Rosen after she died, and abandoned his view of death as the absolute end of the human soul.

“He deserted that altogether and instead hoped he could rejoin her,” she said”

Death has such a profound effect on our lives, how we think, how we love…..but no matter our level of celebrity death causes us pain. Celebrity may bring you riches, but it can never get rid of the pain of losing a loved one.

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• Joined a local village group that meets each Thursday for coffee.
• Started to play bowls.
• Been on a couple of cruises – Dad didn’t really like the idea of cruises so this is a real treat for her.
• Learned to do things around the house, including driving the ride on lawn mower!

She still has tears in her eyes when we talk about Dad, but she has learned to enjoy a very different life. I asked her how   she has found the strength.  She shared 2 reasons which I think may help others.

1. She saw the effect of losing Dad on my sister and I. She wants to live as long as possible to help us through and also to watch over us.
2. Dad loved her very much and would have wanted, indeed trusted that she would live on….she feels that he is willing her each day.

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B= Believe in your ability to cope with the pain and come through even stronger.

E= Expect to be happy again.

L=Learn to love again. Trust that the benefit of love is greater than the pain of loss.

I=Inspire your inner beliefs by setting goals for your future…inspirational goals that you can work towards.

E= Emotions. Understand your emotions, don’t fight them. Learn how to control them and what ma  kes you happy.

F= Face your problems – they will not go away, face them to face your fears.

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“It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know.”

“We are happy together & strong relationships have to grow deep roots. We’re growing them now, partly because we are separated, the foliage and the flowers will come somehow I’m sure of it….Love is a queer thing, it hurts but it gives you so much in return.”

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”

“With the new day comes strength and new thoughts”

“People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built!

Some powerful thoughts to help you build your future….

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ChristianPF presents How to make more money with your emergency fund posted at Money in the Bible | Christian Personal Finance Blog, saying, “A quick how-to showing you how to use an emergency fund to save more money and increase it’s growth rate.”

Millionaire Mommy Next Door presents Create Your Treasure Map To Riches posted at Millionaire Mommy Next Door, saying, “Visualizing what wealth means to you shapes the way your mind thinks about money and your life. Your mind then sets in motion the actions necessary to begin achieving your goals. By taking the time to establish what real wealth looks like to you, you direct your efforts in ways that will make becoming rich, in your own terms, simple.Are you ready to embark on a fun and rewarding journey towards your own riches? Great! We’ll start with an exercise that is really fun. In fact your entire family will enjoy this one.”

Aaron Wakling presents Don?t Allow A Low Credit Score To Cost You Thousands Per Year posted at The Credit & Credit Card Blog saying, “Did you know that a low credit score could be costing you hundreds and even thousands of dollars per year, and perhaps even more? What’s more, were you aware that there is something you can do about that?”

Eric Hudin presents Estate – Don?t Be Left Holding The Bag posted at My Estate Planning Career Blog, saying, “Ned almost lost the farm that had been in his family for 8 generations! Make sure you dont make the same mistake Ned did.”

Allen Taylor presents What Are Your Wealth-Building Goals? posted at Investing World Today, saying, “The money is out there. No matter how many people tell you that we are in the midst of a starvation economy, that the market is doing this or that, and that it’s too risky to play the game, so to speak, people are getting rich every day. That is the reality.”

Tim Ramsey presents Debt Consolidation Loan To Deliver You From Debt posted at My Debt Relief Blog, saying, “High amount of debt needs a drastic solution and a debt consolidation loan is the best solution that can unburden your load of debt.”

Warren Wong presents The Life Pursuit Of Money posted at Personal Development for INTJs, saying, “Why should making money be a life pursuit? Because making money actually helps people! Here’s why.”

Eric Stanley presents Need a Money Making Idea? posted at Personal Finance Blog Articles, saying, “There are so many money making ideas you can choose from online that anyone, no matter what skill level, can find something.”

Mark Kimsey presents Always Make More Than The Minimum Repayment On Your Credit Card posted at PrsnlFinance.com.

Colin Robertson presents Watch Out for Multiple Balance Transfer Fees posted at The Truth About Credit Cards.com, saying, “thanks!”

Ryan presents 101 Ways to Trim Your Budget posted at Care on Credit.

Ant presents How to Start an Online Store posted at The Beef Jerky Blog.

KCLau presents Money Lessons from Tranformers movie posted at KCLau’s Money Tips, saying, “Transformers is an entertaining movie. It also teaches us about personal finance.”

Warren Wong presents Just Do It posted at Personal Development for INTJs, saying, “Are you pondering over a task? Are you not sure if you should do it? Here’s why you should just do it!”

John Wesley presents 78 Timeless Wealth Building Tips from Benjamin Franklin posted at Pick the Brain – Wit and Wisdom for Your Inspiration.

Mark Kimsey presents How Getting Your Credit Report Can Help You posted at PrsnlFinance.com.

Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

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