• Give thanks to all those around you, whose love has kept you strong
• Give thanks to to your heart for caring so much about you that it has kept beating despite all the pain.
• Give thanks for our community at Widows Quest  – there for all our bad days, to smile on the good days and most of all, to always listen and never judge.
• Give thanks for the love that flows through your veins, that love is the one that will eventually win and help us see that there is light in this world when we are ready.

Maybe we can help make this a great holiday by us giving thanks to all those around us. We may want to think more about who is missing, but you know it may be the time to value the people who are living…..

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ananga presents How to Use Your Breath to Relax Your Mind posted at Ananga Sivyer’s Living by Design Blog, saying, “If your mind is behaving like a kid in a waiting room and is really having trouble keeping still and quiet, you need to learn to distract it with mindfulness. Rather than using TV, or rushing about to escape stress and unwanted thoughts, you can distract your mind with something naturally soothing and relaxing, something that can flip the switch between stress and relaxation in minutes. Your breath.”

Stephen Martile presents Are you bigger than your problems? posted at FreedomEducation.ca by Stephen Martile, saying, “Hi Widows Quest, Most people don’t get what they want because they keep doing the same old thing. They keep taking the same actions in hopes of creating a different result. And the reason they do that is because their actions are rooted in fear. They fear taking on new actions. And that is their biggest problem.”

ITAKEOFFTHEMASK presents Poem of Grieving Loss of Loved One posted at itakeoffthemask.com, saying, “Loss of a loved one poem”

Fred Black presents Event Horizon: Black Holes of Failure posted at Fred Black: Internet Business Blog..

Dereck presents When You are Your Own Enemy posted at I Will Not Die.

Arun presents A Matter of Perspective posted at Arun is Bringing You…Your Daily Remedy, saying, “Sometimes, a little perspective is all we need to realize how lucky we are!”

omguy presents The real smart posted at Ordinary Miracles, saying, “Post Summary: Why do some people just seem to have it “figured out”? They just seem to have a gift for living well. They remain resilient in the face of challenges, able to deal with anything and at the same time admired by everyone. New brain research suggests . . .”

Chris Edgar presents Are You A “Star” Or A “Bit Player”? posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “Some people see themselves as “supporting actors” in their lives. In their minds, they exist to make sure the “stars” — perhaps their children, spouses, bosses, or someone else — achieve their goals, rather than to find fulfillment for themselves. If you experience this feeling and want a more balanced perspective, the exercises in this article are intended to help.”

MoneyNing presents Celebrating Thanksgiving is a Must This Year posted at Money Ning, saying, “Thanksgiving is one of the fun holidays of the year! No matter what, you should celebrate!”

Alvaro Fernandez presents Neuroplasticity and the Brain That Changes Itself posted at SharpBrains, saying, “Review of a great book with compelling tales about the amazing abilities of the brain to rewire, readjust and relearn.”

John Buehler presents Celebrating Life posted at Rebuilding Eden.

Nards presents Song of the day: Peace Train – Cat Stevens posted at Nardeeisms.

Donald Latumahina presents 9 Tips to Live an Abundant Life posted at Life Optimizer.

Valeria presents Peaceful Simplicity: 10 Refreshing Ways to Live in the Here and Now posted at Timeless Lessons.

Peter Murphy presents Common Listening Mistakes That Cause People Problems posted at Communication Skills Power.

Louise Manning presents 10 quotes on promise posted at The Human Imprint.

Erin Pavlina presents What Happens When You Die? posted at Erin Pavlina’s Blog, saying, “I’ve gotten a lot of emails asking me variations on this question so I thought I’d do an entire blog entry on this subject to help everyone understand what I believe happens.”

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• There is a community here that will support you, that understands your loneliness, that understands your grief. We may not be able to hug you in person but here is an online hug to keep you warm.
• Try and reach out this year – do you have friends who may also be alone? See if you can visit them or at least talk to them on the phone. Two lonely hearts together can help fill that hole in your life.
• See if you can volunteer and help others that are struggling at this time of year. One way to heal pain is to give love to others.  

One final thought – keeping occupied is important to try and keep that brain occupied. I am not saying don’t remember our loved ones, but try and balance that with carrying on your life. If all else fails then remember let me know, and I will try and support from afar:)

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F = Families may change in who is present but family remain a loving bond to ease the pain.

A = Allow yourself to talk about them, relive memories so that they are part of the day.

M= Mend bridges – often when a death happens and people cope with the grief differently, quarrels can occur…if they have with you, use this time of year to mend those fences before it is too late.

I = Involve yourself. Try not to sit on the outside. Maybe offer to create some games, cook the meal..whatever your strength is, so that you are involved at the centre of the activities. That way you will have a focus, a meaning for the day…

L =Live these moments to the full, they are special times as they create those memories that live forever…don’t waste the chance to bring joy to others. After all we know how quickly these times can be taken away from us!

Y =You shall remember this old Anna adage! You are allowed to laugh and enjoy people’s company….don’t feel guilty for living….

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1) Pay THANKS to my lost loved one for GIVING me the most wonderful years of my life. After all we can we may miss them but we were lucky enough to have had them in our lives and to have felt happiness with them.

2) Ensure that I am GIVING to others to show THANKS for them being in my life.

Thanks and Giving are 2 such underutilized words and actions in the world today. As widows or people who have felt the pain of loss, we should be at the forefront of giving thanks, of thanking others for giving…..we have had support, we have had love which has helped us through some of the rougher times in lives..how can we repay that support? By giving that support to others who may need that love   as much as we do.

Have a wonderful holiday and I would like to THANK YOU for GIVING me a purpose during the most difficult years of my life.

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I just wanted you to know, you are not alone and together we will help each other through it. Stay on line, visit the yahoo and google grief forums……talk to people who understand. Together we will survive these difficult days.

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