Many readers of Widows Quest might know that I also produce a podcast called The Engaging Brand which is a business show, but this week I interviewed a wonderful lady – Kim Ades -  who talked about how we think and how we can control how we think – turning our negative thought into positive thoughts.
I thought you may enjoy the show and it may help people to think more positively during this period of grief – here is a link to playing it online

Each Sunday I post articles that will help us through our grief process and help us find a happiness that we may not feel at the moment is possible. Here are this weeks articles

Matthew Spears presents The flame of blame posted at Loving Awareness, saying, “By assigning responsibility to anyone or anything for a given result, you are assigning blame. It is the need to look for a cause for an experience that is the major factor in blame. So if you want to let go of the blaming process, you must let go of a need to assign responsibility.”

hkalchemy …read more

Over the months I have learned how important it is to talk to yourself…not in a mad way! But in a way that helps you cope with the feelings of grief and depression. When I am down I say

You ARE strong..look how you have coped since his death….
Just take each minute, each hour, each day at a time…
You will get through this moment, it is your heart just needing a little rest in its battle to cope…allow it a moment.
Tears are not a sign of weakness, tears are a sign of someone who has had the joy of loving
I cannot …read more

When we suffer loss, we can think about what we now can’t do rather than exploring what we can do. We can explore our negative feelings like loneliness, sadness, grief rather than thinking about what are strengths are and how we can use them to rebuild our lives.
Overcoming grief is not only coming to terms with the negative aspects of our life, it is about coming to terms with the sense that it is OK to be happy again.  
We have shown our strength by coping with the bereavement…we have that strength to rebuild our lives.  
Today I want you …read more