The 5th of November, 6 years ago at 8.08pm was a sad day for our family. We lost Dad who was such a wonderful gentleman..and gentle man. I will never forget being there with mum as he said goodbye to the world with fireworks lighting up the earth (It is Bonfire night in the UK on the 5th) We always liked to think of that as the world celebrating his life and sending him on his way with such a fitting tribute.
Today I am in London, away from my special mum who I know reads this blog. I hope that …read more

Today – the Glorious 12th as we know it in the UK – is my Dad’s birthday.
Dad was a wonderful gentleman who is missed very much from our lives. The years go by since we lost him from our lives but I can tell you, he is never far from our minds.
I had the privilege – and it was a true privilege – to speak at the funeral on behalf of my mum. I wanted to share with you today a little of what I said
“…As he did fall asleep there were fireworks to be heard and seen outside …read more

Sandra from Families Against Crime  left a comment to PS I Love You giving the back story of the book that I talked about and explaining how this book of poetry, dedicated to all those we have lost to a violent crime…. came to being.She also left a link to a tribute website for Matthew Martins which again is a wonderful way of expressing your feelings and building a memorial to our lost loved ones. This is part of what she says
“This is for all those who have lost a child, mother, father, brother, or sister due to a …read more

This weekend we are going to the seaside where we have placed a memorial chair looking out to sea. Dad used to spend hours with his binoculars looking at the ships going by and there was no more fitting tribute that we could think of…
It will be a sad time in one way, but Dad was always someone who loved a good story, loved a good laugh…so we try and keep that tradition alive. When I am with my mum, it seems OK but I know when I drive home I will be remembered about all the pain of …read more

I posted a while ago about Watching Someone Die and Gloria just posted a comment that touched my heart, the comment ended
“The one thing I walk away with is the knowledge that he was a great man, an unbelievable father and an undying love and trust for God. He will help me through this.”
It touched me because I still remember the last moments of my Dad’s life, I still   remember feeling guilty of waiting for him to go…he was in such pain and I didn’t want that for him, I wanted him to be at peace. I loved him …read more