When you love someone, it is not just about loving them whilst you are together, it is also about loving them enough to let them go. I have sat now 11 hrs short of a week at this bedside..even sleeping here….and what I have learned is that love is not about holding on in grief, love is about letting go in grief.

I have said to Nana so many times when she has been at the brink, don’t be scared….don’t be frightened…it will be OK, however we don’t say that to ourselves do we?

Love is about 2 people and you are one of them…whilst grieving we should maybe talk to ourselves and say don’t be scared, don’t be frightened…because just in the same way, love will guide us to a better place.

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“who helps you to reach beyond yourself” and who sees you “more truly than anyone else ever has or ever will“.

I love those words and believe in our time of grief we can pull on that love – because in getting through the bereavement we need to reach beyond what we think we are capable of…..but remember that love, their love which encouraged you to think and achieve more than you ever thought yourself capable of..

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“allows the other person to be themselves and to be free“

Within that freedom love grows because you are together because you want to be together ?

So in grief maybe we should not see it as being apart but still allowing our true love to the free?

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 Louise wrote

“I saw him for the first time in a sports arena. I caught his eye, and it was true love at first sight. He melted me with his eyes, I will never forget that first time that we met. Thirty years of love and happiness, I lost my wonderful David to cancer. I watched him waste a way, yet the love in his eyes remained as strong as ever. David, thank you for bringing meaning to my life. We may be apart at the moment but our hearts remain entwined. Your love carries on in our beautiful children who you would be so proud of, please know that you may be gone but you live on forever in our hearts”

Dick pays tribute to his wife Elma

“We annoyed each other, we irritated each other, but most of all we loved each other so much. It has been 15 years since you were taken away from us and there hasn’t been a day that I haven’t missed you with all my heart. When they took you away, they took away my heartbeat too….You were the most beautiful lady, you were the most beautiful soul mate. You ARE my world.”

Cynthia says

“I lost my young son 4 years ago. There is nothing right about a child dying before a parent. Son, you had your life ahead of you, your smile lit the world, I know everyone thinks their child is special but you were truly special.  I remember your tears when you had a nightmare, the laughs when you watched cartoons..I remember it all. I hope your grandad is looking after you for me, I will be there to hold you one day. In the meantime, remember that I love you so much, Mum.”

Wendy writes

“My boyfriend, Christophe would have been 30 at the end of this month. C was the love of my life and also of all the people he knew. The 500 people at the funeral told the story of a young man who was taken too early. He gave so willingly and with a smile. C – everyone sends their love and hope you have found a lovely chilled beer and a good baseball team” 

It has been a very special week, and the words of grief are so wonderful and emotional. I hope that the words bring as much comfort to you as they do for me.

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