Dawn Abraham Life Coach presents Power of positive thinking posted at Qualified Life Coach.Com, saying, “Does it sound simple? The power of positive thinking?”

Anna presents How to stay younger and feel brighter posted at The Engaging Brand

Aparna presents Bhramari Pranayam posted at Beauty and Personal Grooming, saying, “It is supposed to create a soothing effect on the nervous system and culturing the voice. It is known to work in relieving stress, reducing anger, anxiety, lack of desire to sleep and blood pressure and eliminating throat ailments. It induces a meditative state by harmonizing the mind and directing the awareness inwards.”

Annaly Curzon presents Phobia – When You Can’t Just Get Over It posted at Working On Me.

Donald Latumahina presents How to Feel Better When You’re Depressed posted at Life Optimizer.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

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Waiting to die or

Waiting to live?

I always assumed death was the most fearful, after all once it happens who truly knows. That fear of the unknown I am sure has brought Nana back from the edge at least twice this week.

But then you look at the life of a widow or widower after bereavement. That lack of acceptance means that we don’t move on, living is as fearful to the survivor as often death can be to the dying.

In both situations the fear is based on the unknown – though I accept with faith this may not be true. But as I sit here now I realise that as long as it remains unknown…the fear will be there….if we take one step at a time to remove the unknown, well then the fear will eventually be engulfed through confidence and enjoyment

The question we need to ask is

‘Do we really want people to see us as waiting to live then waiting to die…or dying to live!’

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I am sure an early night will suffice and I will be back fighting fit tomorrow….and of course I will rearrange the session.

I just want to give my heartfelt apologies….I so didn’t want to put my PC on but I couldn’t go to bed until I had said that I am so sorry…. I suppose just evidence of me talking my own advice….listen to your body!

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You can sign up, remember it is free of charge and easy to do!, at the Widows Quest Wiki Page.

It is one hour which I really look forward to as I hear from all of you of how you are coping and in some small way we can try and support each other like only widows and widowers can…..if you haven’t joined before, we would love to hear from you and it really is easy… all you have to do it

1) Go to our sign up page http://widowsquest.wetpaint.com/

2) Follow the instructions – basically there is a web link and a password!

3) When you are there just listen or join in as you see fit…..you will need a microphone to join in but don’t worry there is a chat function for those without microphones.

It is free, it is online, it is open and honest. ….and I have always felt better after speaking to you all!

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I was trying to think the other day of the positives of getting old….?

• Experience to handle life?
• Memories to cherish
• Ability to help younger people develop and grow
• Family and extended family
• More comfortable in your own skin

Maybe because it is one of those days! (I need our Widows Quest Support Group Meeting this Friday) but then I thought of all the negatives

• aches and pains
• understanding life so much better and having a lack of energy to live it!
• pains and scars of life on the heart

Am I just feeling low? Maybe and yet I always look in the mirror and wonder what really is that great about getting old….do you think more about your age being a widow or widower or is it just me?

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The silence can be a constant reminder of being on your own, it can be the reminder that you are now a widow or widower. Going out can often feel so alien and so frightening that it may not be an option to start with…I understand that, as I am a griever who prefers to be away from people.

However, here are a few tips which I have used to fight off the silence

• Play music….I wake to music and go to bed with music.
• Play podcasts ….it gives me the sense of being part of the world, but in a safe environment – at home.
• Put the TV on….now I am not a TV watcher but I often have it on just to replace the silence.
• Make a phone call. You will probably know someone who is lonely themselves, or an older person who would just love to hear your voice.
• Sing! I know this sounds strange but singing – even as badly as I do – makes you feel happier.

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Why?

Because the first step isn’t often the one that helps start to heal the broken heart…in itself. Of course the first time going out, the first time you meet someone, the first time you go on holiday, the first anniversary are all hard…I don’t dispute that at all. However often the first step is surrounded by friends, often the first step is understood by all as a difficult step for a widow or widower.

But following that you have to start progressing on your own, often you don’t enjoy the first experience because of the loneliness and that can make the future even more difficult.

What I would like to say to people feeling like that is this….there is no definitive answer..it may be the first, fifth or fiftieth step you take which is the hardest. But the alternative of removing yourself from life or society is not easy anyway. It feeds depression, it feeds loneliness so what I would think about is this

“This step is hard, it may even be painful but at least it is a step in the right direction”

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• There is no charge….it is a group of widows and widowers who just want to cope with life..and death.
• The meetings are held on the web so doesn’t matter where you live
• No telephone call – just visit the site and you can hear people speak. If you want to speak then you will need a microphone but you can just listen
• To register for the details visit the Widows Wetpaint account I have suggested some times and days in August and if you could leave your name under the times you could make…then we will go with the most popular.

As a widow you often feel as though people don’t fully understand, you can feel that friends are tired of hearing your emotions…that is why this meeting is great. Hope to hear you there!

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One to lose the desire to live in the past

One to to find a desire to live for the future

It is not easy that is for sure. We must draw on the fact that we have desire when you think about it….because we desire our loved one back in our life. It is not the desire that is missing, it is the ability to use that desire to live our life forward not backwards.

You may be reading this and thinking “I can’t”, well I spoke to my friend who lost her husband three years ago and she said “Today, I woke up and suddenly started thinking about the future. I live with the pain today, the memories of the past but now with the desire to live life to the full”

If you are down today, you may want to cry…that is fine. But never lose that belief…belief will see us all through the grief.

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It dawned on me when having our Widows Support Group, that are we really trying to let go? Or are we trying to let in?

Letting go of the past is difficult and painful and in reality not something that we want to do…but what we need to do is…

Find a way of letting other people in…..if we can find a way of letting others in then we can find happiness, love and friendship which helps creates that happier future.

So out with the letting go….and in with the letting in?

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