The 5 Year Old’s Advice for Widows Quest
January 15, 2009 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Bereavement and Children
My friend has been a widow for just over a year. I was around at their house when I was talking to her 5 year old about how the family was feeling.
He turned and said in a very adult voice (!)
“As I see it when I trapped my finger in the kitchen cupboard in hurt a lot for a while. Mum put a plaster on and I tried not to use it till it stopped hurting. Losing Daddy is like that”
He then walked to the kitchen and came back with a plaster on his chest.
“That feels better now people know that I am hurting and when it feels better, I will take it off. Because it will you know!”
Wow, the innocence of children but you know in the innocence is such a deep truth.
……we just need to give them time to deal with the grief and find that protection from family and friends in the meantime.
That is just beautiful
My four year old once placed a smiley face sticker on my chest – to make my heart happy.
Children are so very intuitive and far more in the “know” than we sometimes give them credit for.
Alison it made me smile too…maybe the lesson is to let go of the sensible adult and let our inner child come through?