Comments on: The Grief, Love, Anger Cycle http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-grief-love-anger-cycle/ Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Thu, 24 Dec 2009 18:49:06 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Leslie http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-grief-love-anger-cycle/comment-page-1/#comment-2901 Leslie Sat, 28 Mar 2009 13:01:35 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1331#comment-2901 Anna, I love the idea of a temperature gauge for grief. I'm going to try and keep a mental picture of that and when I'm feeling down, I'll think of that and try to turn it down so to speak. Anna,
I love the idea of a temperature gauge for grief. I’m going to try and keep a mental picture of that and when I’m feeling down, I’ll think of that and try to turn it down so to speak.

]]> By: Anna Farmery http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-grief-love-anger-cycle/comment-page-1/#comment-2894 Anna Farmery Fri, 27 Mar 2009 21:00:33 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1331#comment-2894 I sure do think that - and the more I think about it the more I believe that it is not about losing the emotions, it is about controlling them. We almost need grief temperature gauges fitted :) So when we feel down it lightens our mood and we feel tearful it makes us smile... I agree with you though that I have learned more about myself in the last few years than at any other time of my life.....In a funny way I am more content?? I sure do think that – and the more I think about it the more I believe that it is not about losing the emotions, it is about controlling them. We almost need grief temperature gauges fitted :) So when we feel down it lightens our mood and we feel tearful it makes us smile…

I agree with you though that I have learned more about myself in the last few years than at any other time of my life…..In a funny way I am more content??

]]> By: Leslie http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-grief-love-anger-cycle/comment-page-1/#comment-2844 Leslie Tue, 24 Mar 2009 20:48:11 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1331#comment-2844 Anna, I too have experienced a wide range of emotions in short periods of time. I see people who are happy together and I say to myself "Why is that not me? What did I do to deserve the loss of my love?" Then in a very short period of time I tell myself that I am luckier than a lot of people and that I should be grateful for having had a wonderful, loving husband. It's just that it ended far too soon. You are so right that death is the start of finding out so much more about yourself. I have found out that I am much stronger than I ever would have guessed and that I can do many things I never thought possible. Let's hope that we all spend the rest of our lives discovering new wonderful things about ourselves and that the future holds many more good things for all of us in the Widows Quest community. Don't you think we deserve that much. I sure do. Anna, I too have experienced a wide range of emotions in short periods of time. I see people who are happy together and I say to myself “Why is that not me? What did I do to deserve the loss of my love?” Then in a very short period of time I tell myself that I am luckier than a lot of people and that I should be grateful for having had a wonderful, loving husband. It’s just that it ended far too soon. You are so right that death is the start of finding out so much more about yourself. I have found out that I am much stronger than I ever would have guessed and that I can do many things I never thought possible. Let’s hope that we all spend the rest of our lives discovering new wonderful things about ourselves and that the future holds many more good things for all of us in the Widows Quest community. Don’t you think we deserve that much. I sure do.

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