The Idea of Widowhood

It always amazes me how the word widows or widowers often provokes an emotional response. You get the touch of the arm, maybe an embarrassed look or the one which I feel cringe worthy….”Oh I am sorry”

I understand the reaction because people feel the pain of loss, they know that bereavement is awful and they also know that there are no words which can take away that sense of loss.

However, when you think about it widowhood has some good signs..

• It means you are one of the lucky people in the world who found their true love!
• It means that you understand much more about the world and the world of emotion.

When I think about it  – I would rather be a widow than someone who has never loved at all. But even as I write that…it makes me passionately want him back

Finally, if we are getting that reaction…maybe it is how we are saying the word. It is not a disease or something that we should be ashamed of…it is something happens, it is not our fault…it is not our curse….it is just a word.

Let’s be proud of having loved…