The Joy of Family
December 4, 2007 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Comfort Yourself
Tonight I am going to my mum’s and then tomorrow we are setting off to visit my aunt who lives at the opposite end of the country. Both mum and my aunt have lost their husbands, and both are trying to rebuild their lives.
Despite my 41 years of age, I am still the ‘baby’ of the family and love the fact that by creating time 
in my life to spend time with others….actually brings joy to them. When we are feeling down it is easy to forget how we do create happiness in the lives of others……a joy of family is that I can bring some much needed love, in doing that it brings a smile that lights up my life too.
We may feel lost, but we should never lose sight of our ability to bring value to the lives of others…
I agree but I still am having a hard time not wanting to through the covers over my head. I miss my husband so much and can not get use to the idea of being alone. We had looked forward to our retirement together and I think we put off ourselves for our kids and that is my one regret. I think we could have made time for one another while still being there for our kids. Now i feel like i will see him again in heaven, but that wait may seem long for me. I think my greif is getting harder and not easier with each passing day. I enojyed your entry thanks.
First I am glad that God gave me such a wonderful man to enjoy for 21 years, but i feel like my heart is breaking more and more day. sometimes i wish I could just rip the band aid on my heart open and pour alcohol on it. It would hurt like hell but then be done and i could start to heal. Instead it feels like it is being torn off ever so slowly. I was hopeful that after this first year of mourning I could start to heal, but now it seems like it will take much longer, maybe the rest of my life. Sounds so mellow dramtic! Well thanks for being a place to share my thoughts.
Jennifer I fully understand and even today I posted about forgiveness which is part of it for me…forgiving what has happened is such a big part of the grief process. You may find it useful to join in our online meeting that we have each month – the next one is 10th July, totally free just the community helping each other….watch out for the detail which I will post next week.
Also keep sharing your thoughts, this place has helped me just get out the anger, get out the deep depression…and through the comments of others help me find a path towards a happier life…I hope we can do that for you too
Anna xx