The Kid vs The Adult

Losing someone you love makes you think about the need for love so deep inside all human beings. Last night I went over to stay with mum ahead of a meeting I was having near her…..and it struck me that as a child you spend much of the time wanting others to see you grown up, wanting to fall in love, wanting to be ‘treated like an adult’.

The irony is that as you become that adult, as you go through the joys and sorrows of life, you value that support and looking after of others. Last night I went home, mum cooked tea, even put a water bottle in bed for me, gave me a pack up of homemade food to take home…..it was wonderful. It is at these times when I think how wonderful it would be to have back the naivety and joy of the unbroken heart of a child.

So the question is do you spend your childhood wanting to be an adult and your adult life enjoying those special times when others care for you in that wonderful parental way?

I know one thing is true, in grief you value the love and caring of others so much more as you understand the precious nature of that love.