The Loss of a Gentleman
April 10, 2008 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Grief
I have been working out in the USA this last week, I have just got home and Mum has told me how one of her best friends has just died. He didn’t feel ill – just went in for a regular check up for diabetes, they found a problem took him in to hospital. They operated on his heart, then his kidney failed. He was dead within a couple of days…wow!
I am so glad I visited him before I went to the USA. He was on fine form and I had no idea that would be the last time I saw him and talked sport with him. We shared a passion for all sports.
It has made me feel
- You really never know what is around the corner.
- You should never put off visiting people, as you never know….
- How no matter how many times, death touches your life….death is never something that does not affect you deeply.
My heart goes out to mum as it brings back so many painful memories of the way Dad died. We talked last night and both of us smiled at the stories of our lost friend…but most importantly at the end of the telephone conversation we said “I love you” We never used to say those words, we have always felt the love…but only since losing Dad have we said it …funny 
how 3 words can comfort you so much in grief.
[photo from istockphoto]
Great post Anna, I just found your blog and can really relate to it. My wife died suddenly back in 2001 from a diabetic seizure. I am OK now, but I was far from OK at the time. One night while watching TV she just began trembling while laying on my arm – she did wake up in the hospital. Seems sometime after I left her there for observation she had another seizure and that was it – I never spoke to my wife again. Of course there were always the 14 weeks that we spent with her in the diabetic coma in the hospital.
You are so right. You never know what is going to be minutes from now. Tell those that you love how much you love them, say everything that you have to, don’t wait! My wife and I had a good relationship, but oh how I wish I had a chance to say goodbye.
I find healing in trying to help others live a healthy life – my blog helps a lot, if I can help just one person it feels great. You are doing great work here – I appreciate it very much!
Thanks for the post.
Scott Becker