The love inside a widow or widower
March 30, 2009 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Grief
I once heard someone in a film talking about love and describing true love as someone
“who helps you to reach beyond yourself” and who sees you “more truly than anyone else ever has or ever will“.
I love those words and believe in our time of grief we can pull on that love – because in getting through the bereavement we need to reach beyond what we think we are capable of…..but remember that love, their love which encouraged you to think and achieve more than you ever thought yourself capable of..
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- roses
Reading this Anna made me think about how he was responsible for so much of my confidence and how unfair to put that burden on someone else, makes me wonder if he realized it? I know in time I will reach beyond this cocoon of sorts I have built but right now at this time it seems a long ways off, places like this convince me to THINK positive and to try and See Happy in my future but not quite there yet…
Deb
Deb – you are so right. When we rely on someone else maybe we are hiding from ourself, and I agree with you that I think at times I put too much pressure on him too….the irony is that his death made me into the person he always thought I could be if I just gained a little bit of confidence….
I submitted the comments and was asked for the above address again….
I just wanted to agree to the fact that my Don and I did extend each other’s horizons during our marriage. We began with all of the similar traits that proved how much we had in common and then we taught each other so many other skills. those became commonly enjoyed pleasures and also life giving pleasure forms forever.
With that true mate and best friend there is no end for the reaching out and blending of abilities, thoughts and joys. No wonder we miss them so terribly.
Cindy – thank you. Yes I think the true test of love is being able to see the individual and let the individual flourish at the same time as becoming one and that one grows into something that is even more special than the individuals – if that makes sense?
We are hopefully going to have a telephone natter as a community this month keep watching out for the details, the more the merrier as in numbers we find strength