Comments on: The Mixed Emotions of Grief – Part 2 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-mixed-emotions-of-grief-part-2/ Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Mon, 21 Dec 2009 17:46:48 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Anna Farmery http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-mixed-emotions-of-grief-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-3301 Anna Farmery Mon, 20 Apr 2009 11:32:53 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/?p=1318#comment-3301 Stephanie don't hate it, love is a wonderful thing. I never believe that finding love again is wrong.....our hearts are there to love. No matter what we do we cannot bring our loved ones back and loving again is not about disloyalty it is about recognising that we are human with human needs. We can still honor the memories, we can still feel their love....love will be different but it can be great. It may be a surprise but I envy you....I would love to find love again, not because I want to forget but because I want to remember what it is like to love? Does that make sense? Stephanie don’t hate it, love is a wonderful thing. I never believe that finding love again is wrong…..our hearts are there to love. No matter what we do we cannot bring our loved ones back and loving again is not about disloyalty it is about recognising that we are human with human needs.

We can still honor the memories, we can still feel their love….love will be different but it can be great. It may be a surprise but I envy you….I would love to find love again, not because I want to forget but because I want to remember what it is like to love? Does that make sense?

]]> By: Stephanie http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-mixed-emotions-of-grief-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-3282 Stephanie Sun, 19 Apr 2009 08:22:05 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/?p=1318#comment-3282 I am reading through your blogs drenched in tears. Tomorrow is 9 months. I didn't want to live without him. Lately a friend from the past has found me. He has been searching for me for 18 years, his love never faded. I am finally smiling again but I hate that I am beginning to love again. I feel so completely guilty because my heart can feel again. I never thought I would love again. I never wanted to. I am scared to let go of the past, I am scared to face the future. But a love from 18 years past is slowly bringing me back to live. I love it. And I hate it. Most of all, I am afraid of it. I am reading through your blogs drenched in tears. Tomorrow is 9 months. I didn’t want to live without him. Lately a friend from the past has found me. He has been searching for me for 18 years, his love never faded. I am finally smiling again but I hate that I am beginning to love again. I feel so completely guilty because my heart can feel again. I never thought I would love again. I never wanted to. I am scared to let go of the past, I am scared to face the future. But a love from 18 years past is slowly bringing me back to live. I love it. And I hate it. Most of all, I am afraid of it.

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