The Spiritual Journey of Grief

Grief changes you, I cannot believe that someone can go through a death close to them and not be affected. Often we can concentrate on the bad aspects of grief – of which there are many – sleepless nights, pain, depression etc However, there are good ways that grief affects us.

I know that I have gone on what I can only call a spiritual journey. I have changed. Grief has removed trivial insecurities and also my desire to see what in reality are small problems as major life issues. So I am now much more patient for instance in traffic jams! After all, there is nothing I can do about it and in reality is it a HUGE worldwide problem…no.

I often wish that he could see how his death has changed me….I am a better person, I know that….

On the other hand those insecurities have been replaced with a loss of confidence but that loss is related to his death and wouldn’t be there if I hadn’t lost him.

You know grief is a natural part of life. We may concentrate on how grief affects us in a bad way but lets not forget how it changes us for the better. Moreover if it hasn’t changed us for the better…why not? Surely when we lose something so dear we must learn to value the most important thing in life – love, friendship etc

Grief will change us – let us make sure that the net difference is a positive one