Comments on: The Visions of Lost Love http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/ Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Sat, 05 Dec 2009 18:12:01 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Inner Wisdom Project: October 27th 2008 | Journey Inward Productions http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1435 Inner Wisdom Project: October 27th 2008 | Journey Inward Productions Mon, 27 Oct 2008 22:59:04 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/the-visions-of-lost-love/#comment-1435 [...] Farmery presents Visions of a Lost Love posted at Widows [...] [...] Farmery presents Visions of a Lost Love posted at Widows [...]

]]> By: anna http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1647 anna Tue, 02 Sep 2008 11:45:50 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/the-visions-of-lost-love/#comment-1647 Mary - I posted about it today, so more people see it. I hope that today you can concentrate on the good memories - it really is a wonderful feeling to have loved. We will celebrate with you today, and yet also understand the pain..... Mary – I posted about it today, so more people see it. I hope that today you can concentrate on the good memories – it really is a wonderful feeling to have loved. We will celebrate with you today, and yet also understand the pain…..

]]> By: Mary http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1658 Mary Tue, 02 Sep 2008 05:48:33 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/the-visions-of-lost-love/#comment-1658 For some reason, clicking on my name doesn't bring you to my website. Here's the URL if you're inclined to stop by. www.myspace.com/lulustarbrook Thanks! For some reason, clicking on my name doesn’t bring you to my website. Here’s the URL if you’re inclined to stop by.

http://www.myspace.com/lulustarbrook

Thanks!

]]> By: Mary http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1657 Mary Tue, 02 Sep 2008 05:42:06 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/the-visions-of-lost-love/#comment-1657 Anna (and anyone else who might want to stop by), I posted a little tribute on my MySpace blog. Today, Sept. 2, would have been Michael and my 8th wedding anniversary. It's my way of dealing with the loss of him. He'll always be in my heart. I must be moving forward a little, because I'm feeling that I won't continue to mark the anniversaries with a public memorial. I'm one of those people who loves ritual and finding closure. The memories I've recorded this past year and a half are ones I'll treasure forever. Anna (and anyone else who might want to stop by), I posted a little tribute on my MySpace blog. Today, Sept. 2, would have been Michael and my 8th wedding anniversary. It’s my way of dealing with the loss of him. He’ll always be in my heart. I must be moving forward a little, because I’m feeling that I won’t continue to mark the anniversaries with a public memorial. I’m one of those people who loves ritual and finding closure. The memories I’ve recorded this past year and a half are ones I’ll treasure forever.

]]> By: anna http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1500 anna Mon, 01 Sep 2008 11:38:47 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/the-visions-of-lost-love/#comment-1500 Mary your story does help because it keeps that hope alive. Actually the words were just ones that I wrote on a piece of paper...not sure if it means it is a "poem" but I was just thinking how weird your mind is....when you want to forget you can't, when you want to remember you can't...maybe we should trick it back and wish for the opposite... :) Mary your story does help because it keeps that hope alive. Actually the words were just ones that I wrote on a piece of paper…not sure if it means it is a “poem” but I was just thinking how weird your mind is….when you want to forget you can’t, when you want to remember you can’t…maybe we should trick it back and wish for the opposite… :)

]]> By: Mary http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1525 Mary Sun, 31 Aug 2008 20:11:01 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/the-visions-of-lost-love/#comment-1525 Anna, Your poem brought tears to my eyes. I certainly can relate. When Michael died, I wasn't with him. But I did find him, and he looked so peaceful that I felt some measure of comfort. His body had been breaking down for years to the point where he should have been in a wheelchair. I had several dreams of him after his funeral. The first two were rather troubling. But the third one (was that the charm?) showed me that he was thriving in his afterlife. He was healthy and strong. He walked briskly. He was free of the pain and suffering. That dream came 6 months after he died. I was still dealing with the grief and anger of his death that at the time I had mixed feelings of the message. Part of me was thinking, "gee, aren't you lucky to be through with this pain, and I'm still hanging in the wind?" I realized, though, his life on earth had become unbearable. To keep him in a physical form would have prolonged his agony. I don't know if my little story has helped you at all, but your poem hit home. Thank you so much for writing and sharing it. Hugs, Mary Anna,
Your poem brought tears to my eyes. I certainly can relate. When Michael died, I wasn’t with him. But I did find him, and he looked so peaceful that I felt some measure of comfort. His body had been breaking down for years to the point where he should have been in a wheelchair.

I had several dreams of him after his funeral. The first two were rather troubling. But the third one (was that the charm?) showed me that he was thriving in his afterlife. He was healthy and strong. He walked briskly. He was free of the pain and suffering. That dream came 6 months after he died. I was still dealing with the grief and anger of his death that at the time I had mixed feelings of the message. Part of me was thinking, “gee, aren’t you lucky to be through with this pain, and I’m still hanging in the wind?” I realized, though, his life on earth had become unbearable. To keep him in a physical form would have prolonged his agony.

I don’t know if my little story has helped you at all, but your poem hit home. Thank you so much for writing and sharing it.

Hugs,
Mary

]]> By: How Pain Affects The Memory http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1539 How Pain Affects The Memory Sat, 30 Aug 2008 12:31:24 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/the-visions-of-lost-love/#comment-1539 [...] response to the poem I wrote called The Visions of Lost Love, Hazel and I were talking about the pictures we have in our mind. In one of the comments I [...] [...] response to the poem I wrote called The Visions of Lost Love, Hazel and I were talking about the pictures we have in our mind. In one of the comments I [...]

]]> By: Anna http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1649 Anna Sat, 30 Aug 2008 12:24:10 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/the-visions-of-lost-love/#comment-1649 Jessica - thank you, can you see me blushing! I suppose it just shows that words from the heart are always better than words manufactured. Hazel - I will never give up hoping that one day that picture will change. I know it is the pain that is still holding my attention rather than the love that I know is deep inside Jessica – thank you, can you see me blushing! I suppose it just shows that words from the heart are always better than words manufactured.

Hazel – I will never give up hoping that one day that picture will change. I know it is the pain that is still holding my attention rather than the love that I know is deep inside

]]> By: Hazel http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1594 Hazel Fri, 29 Aug 2008 13:17:01 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/the-visions-of-lost-love/#comment-1594 Anna, I know it is so hard to get the picture of your husband dying out of your mind and memory. I also watched my husband die when the Dr's told me there was no hope and they had to remove the life support that had kept him breathing. It is a picture that replayed over and over in my mind. I can only say that over time that picture lessens and the happy memories replace it. Try to turn your thoughts to a happier memory when that vision comes. Anna,
I know it is so hard to get the picture of your husband dying out of your mind and memory. I also watched my husband die
when the Dr’s told me there was no hope and they had to remove the life support that had kept him breathing. It is a picture that replayed over and over in my mind. I can only say that over time that picture lessens and the happy memories replace it. Try to turn your thoughts to a happier memory when that vision comes.

]]> By: Jessica http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-visions-of-lost-love/comment-page-1/#comment-1551 Jessica Thu, 28 Aug 2008 17:50:18 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/the-visions-of-lost-love/#comment-1551 Anna - You said, "I am no poet". I beg to differ with you! And those were powerful lines that you wrote - so many of us (I am assuming) can see ourselves in what you wrote. Thank you, once again, for sharing your thoughts. Hugs from Houston! Anna -

You said, “I am no poet”. I beg to differ with you! And those were powerful lines that you wrote – so many of us (I am assuming) can see ourselves in what you wrote. Thank you, once again, for sharing your thoughts. Hugs from Houston!

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