The Winter Blues – How to beat the depression
November 25, 2006 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Comfort Yourself, Grief, Loneliness, Guilt & Depression
It seems that every person that I speak to is feeling down and a tired at the moment. I spoke to mum last night and she said that she had cried yesterday, she hasn’t done that in ages. She had wanted to go shopping but just couldn’t be bothered. As the winter hits and also holiday seasons when families get together – so it is even more obvious that our loved ones are not with the family – start, depression can hit hard.
Grief, loneliness feeds on the winter season. So how can you protect yourself. Here are my 3 top tips
- Happiness thrives on sunlight. In winter the darkness, means that your brain just doesn’t get the top up that it needs. Each day take a short walk, keep your head up look at the sky as much as possible – try and get as much natural light as possible.
- No matter how low, make sure that you force yourself out, keep in touch with people, socialising is a great way of occupying the mind and beating the loneliness.
- Try and help someone else. You know what grief is like and how bereavement renders you emotionally dry. Helping maybe older people at this time of year, friends who are going through their own personal crisis, or even babysitting…fills the desire to be needed. I find helping other to cope with their depression, helps me to cope with mine.
Dark nights, dark days will lead to dark thoughts…..no matter how difficult you need to force yourself towards the light.
Widows Quest,
I have been a widow for six years this April22,2008,I moved to Texas and left all my family to start a new life. I am feeling depressed,I miss my family and am struggling financially. I have 2 teenagers,my daughter is 17 and my son is 15. I feel lonely and miss my husband,I’m not working but have a very good Church I am involved in. I am looking for a job. I have a lot of anxieties and fears. I do pray and read my bible,I’ve had to trust in the Lord to help me. I lost my husband in a accident which he fell at work,he was in a coma for 11 days,he was brain dead and died April 22,2002.
Naomi Doughty
Naomi
I so feel for you. I will post this coming week about some more in depth thoughts for you but what I would suggest is you grab a pen and piece of paper. You take some thinking time and think of
What you enjoy doing
What makes you happy
How can you do more of these things in a job?
When you feel lost you need to give yourself some guidance…some hope about the future.
By writing them down you can focus on the future rather than the past….you can change the future, as they always say. But I will give more thought and post for you during the week
In the meantime, don’t feel lonely I am always here as are all the other readers of the Widows Quest
Thank you for your letter to me,
I went to a ladies meeting at my church and had a wonderful time. I’m also involved in a singles group which I am involved in. I am looking for a job but am afraid because I have anxieties in writing in front of people,thats what keeps me looking for a job. I love my children and am truly blessed to have wonderful parents who love me.
Naomi Doughty