Warning…deep post but in a thinking not depressed sense
At the funeral today of the wonderful Lucy, I sat in the pew pondering what really is the point of life?
We are born, wishing our time away until we can be a grown up and do grown up things
We leave home and have to work to pay for basic needs
We then have families which need our time
We then start losing the people around us
We then stop working and look forward to retirement…and so often we die!
We seem to spend all our lives believing that enjoyment is just round the corner …read more

I still wish that somebody would find a remedy for the aching heart, when I spoke to my Auntie she gave me a wonderful piece of relationship advice. She said “To help overcome the pain of a lost relationship, you must forgive yourself”
At first, I didn’t understand forgive myself, his death was not something I could control? Then I thought a little harder and realised that I did need to forgive myself. My mind was saying many sentences that started “If only…..” If only I hadn’t complained about moving, if only I had taken a days holiday, if only I …read more

I found a wonderful Web site today for the woman who is looking for the motivation to “get going,” again.  And of course, for a young widow who is in the process of reinventing her life and starting over, getting going is what it’s all about.  I know – it isn’t easy, but it can be done and I know you can do it.
I first thought that Girls Get Going was just for women in their 20s or maybe 30s.  It has a youthful look.  But as I looked around, I realized this was part of the atmosphere of …read more

Right after I was widowed, I bought every book on grief I could find.  I had this idea – if I bought all of the books and learned everything I could learn about grief, it wouldn’t hurt so much.  Bad idea – it cost me a lot of money and it still hurt. 
Oh, how desperately we seek to maintain control.
I still buy books on grief but now I have a rule – I don’t buy them very often, maybe two or three a year, and I don’t look for them to be anything more than a map to …read more