Welcome to the April 27, 2007 edition of how to solve money worries. Bereavement can be hard enough but if you have money worries as well it can really drag you down, so each Friday I post ideas of how to solve the money worries. Hope they help.

Steve Faber presents Success is at Your Doorstep posted at DebtBlog.

Ted Reimers presents Free Software for Students posted at CampusGrotto, saying, “Here are 10 useful software programs available for free. Among them: free tv, free phone calls and more.”

Wenchypoo presents Dollar Stretcher TNG–The Next Generation (L-O-N-G) posted at
Wisdom From …read more

When you are feeling lonley, depressed or just engulfed with grief do you maintain some safe anchor points? When everything seems to be changing around you and you’re feeling a bit out of control, you need a rock of stability you can hang on to until you find your bearings.
We all need some stress and tension to give our everyday lives zing and motivation, but during grief then this can become too much  and remember you don’t need any more changes for a while, it may seem like you want to make changes but you don’t allow your mind to …read more

I was thinking about the time when we met, all those years ago….it made me think about how much I had changed during the relationship. I am not the same person now, than at the time I fell in love. Then grief changed me again. Actually if I take off the rose tinted glasses a minute both of us changed during the years together and indeed it caused some friction and problems. Of course our love ensured that we worked through and came out stronger.
But as I face life alone I realise that what I needed from a partner 20 …read more

When someone dies, you can lose trust. You don’t want to trust someone else with your heart, trust in your beliefs – how can they take someone so good? and trust in your ability to survive.
Trust is such a fundamental part of life…don’t mistake grief for a reason not to trust. Trust has brought you a huge amount of happiness in the past and it will in the future. When you trust you will get hurt on occassions but hurt is there to keep you objective….trust remains a foundation of happiness and relationships. The one person you should trust is …read more

There is a fabulous saying by Ralph Waldo Emerson
“The only way to have a friend is to be one”
Helping others can really help you get through a personal crisis. It shows you that there are others out there that are hurting, have emotional stress and in helping them you heal yourself. I suppose that is why I write this blog!
When you look at the great support groups like Alcoholic Anonymous the sponsors actually state that it is the support of others that helps them stay away from drink. Joining groups online via Yahoo, or in your community is a great …read more

“As woman cry and men attempt not to, letting them know that their mourning is a step toward the goal of healing will help a man feel more in control.”
Adelle Tilton
If you have experienced a loss, the odds are high that you know a man who is experiencing the same loss, perhaps your brother-in-law or your husband’s father. As you cry and mourn the death of your husband, you probably have seen the struggle that a man goes through when he is confronted by death. How can you help a man deal with grief and find the healing he needs?
The …read more

Right after I was widowed, I bought every book on grief I could find.  I had this idea – if I bought all of the books and learned everything I could learn about grief, it wouldn’t hurt so much.  Bad idea – it cost me a lot of money and it still hurt. 
Oh, how desperately we seek to maintain control.
I still buy books on grief but now I have a rule – I don’t buy them very often, maybe two or three a year, and I don’t look for them to be anything more than a map to …read more

Everyone, including me, will tell the newly widowed woman, to keep a journal.  Pretty hard to do early on.  I can personally testify to that.  I could have no more set up a journal immediately after Floyd’s death, than fly to the moon.  But there was something that did jump-start me, helping me get to my own journal and it is something that I am continuing to work on to this day, four years later.
The “Grief Journal” was given to me as a gift and it is one of the best things that came across my path of grief.  I …read more