Losing someone you love is hard, I wonder what it must be like to be Britney Spears family or friends ? I know Britney is alive and kicking, but in so many ways they are losing the real daughter, the real friend, the real sister…they must feel helpless.
That sense of losing someone you love in front of your eyes. I know from my point of view, I feel a sense of grief – as daft as that sounds – at the loss of a beautiful young woman who brought such joy to so many.
I am hoping that her latest “stay” …read more

Right after I was widowed, I bought every book on grief I could find.  I had this idea – if I bought all of the books and learned everything I could learn about grief, it wouldn’t hurt so much.  Bad idea – it cost me a lot of money and it still hurt. 
Oh, how desperately we seek to maintain control.
I still buy books on grief but now I have a rule – I don’t buy them very often, maybe two or three a year, and I don’t look for them to be anything more than a map to …read more

Everyone, including me, will tell the newly widowed woman, to keep a journal.  Pretty hard to do early on.  I can personally testify to that.  I could have no more set up a journal immediately after Floyd’s death, than fly to the moon.  But there was something that did jump-start me, helping me get to my own journal and it is something that I am continuing to work on to this day, four years later.
The “Grief Journal” was given to me as a gift and it is one of the best things that came across my path of grief.  I …read more

Every now and then a film will come along that touches you where you live. Deep inside it burrows itself as you watch it and it becomes a part of you. Such it was when I watched “Dragonfly,” starring Kevin Costner. It is a film that anyone who has lost a loved one and is grieving should watch.
In summary the film is about the inability of non-grieving people to understand the bereaved and to accept the possibility and power of After Death Communications (ADC).
Joe, played by Kevin Costner, loses his wife Emily early in the film. Shortly after her death …read more