Weekends or even weak ends!
July 18, 2008 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Loneliness, Guilt & Depression
Am I the only one that struggles with weekends ? I think when you are grieving the weekends are often the hardest. During the week you can keep busy through work and then the weekends come…..and all the things that you used to do together, now don’t seem worthwhile.
Now I know that we should be able to go shopping or take a trip out to the countryside but I feel lonely because he is NOT there. We would laugh and make fun of each other, we would talk incessantly…..so doing those things just make me miss him more.
I wonder whether we need to do different things, or find new ways to spend your
leisure time? I was wondering whether you struggle with the weekend or have found a way of making that time more enjoyable? Or is it just me!
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Anna,
It’s not just you! The worst day of the week has been Saturday. My mind could be engaged the rest of the week. Even though Friday and Saturday are my regular days off, Friday wouldn’t be too bad. I would still be unwinding from the work week. But Saturday tended to hit me hard for the same reasons you mentioned. That was the day we spent together, and that’s the day the house seems the emptiest without him.
Being around other people does help. This past weekend, my brother and his partner came to stay. That was so much fun. I must have mentioned Michael a half a dozen times, though, so he could still be included in the get-together.
Sending a hug across the sea,
Mary
Hug gratefully received
Mum finds Sunday hard as well, I think that is the time when she feels everyone else is with their families and she feels most alone…that is why I travel 3 hrs to see her every other Sunday. I never want her to feel alone….