What is the point of life?
April 9, 2009 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Discoveries
Warning…deep post but in a thinking not depressed sense 
At the funeral today of the wonderful Lucy, I sat in the pew pondering what really is the point of life?
We are born, wishing our time away until we can be a grown up and do grown up things
We leave home and have to work to pay for basic needs
We then have families which need our time
We then start losing the people around us
We then stop working and look forward to retirement…and so often we die!
We seem to spend all our lives believing that enjoyment is just round the corner ?
So it begs the question when do we truly live! I can think of moments, I can think of days but I am not sure that I have ever put the enjoyment of life at the centre of my world or the world of those around me.
How sad is that…..how can we ensure that the only celebration of life is NOT at our funeral. Maybe it is just because I feel that sense of loss today, maybe I am fighting for that meaning to my world, maybe it is because I never truly feel anything but an outsider, maybe it is a combination….
Maybe I just need to start living….
Dear Anna,
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved friend, Lucy. Just remember what you wrote about her a few days ago. She embraced life even through great adversity. You said you felt happier around her. You may not realize it but you do that for so many of us. Your words of encouragement have meant so much to me and usually at a time when I really needed it. I know that many others feel the same. This forum has helped me in so many ways that I do not know what I would have done without it some days. Never feel like an outsider because you are embraced by so many of us that consider you a good friend even though we have never met.
I have been doing a lot of thinking lately and have decided that I have to start living and that is due in part to your encouragement at Widows Quest. I’m not quite sure what “starting to live” means but I’m sure going to find out. Happiness is out there and I intend to find it. I really hope you can do the same.
I am not sure where we all are timewise on this journey but even at 9 months I am struggling with “living” and not just “existing” and it sounds in the last few days comments and postings that we all are. I was so fortunate to have so much true living and joy in my 25 years of marriage, friends often commented and “blamed” it on my being his second wife and our large age difference, whatever the reason I was blessed but now the huge void. I am finding myself without confidence, without a willingness to take risk but then I lecture myself and read Anna’s words of encouragement and try to at least go outside my “box” a little…it is going to take some time and perhaps when the episodes of utter sadness are not as frequent….then maybe I can start living for more than hours or days but for always again…. Thank you Anna, you make me think of the future and the past in positive ways, you help me grasp what is happening and how I can change it or accept it…you help in so many ways and do a lot more LIVING than you realize in your writing.
Deb
Maybe you know the point of life is that isn’t one, that life is just a bunch of moments, it is a moment we need to worry about not life??