What we should wish for in our grief

I posted yesterday about Is there life after death, and Diane wrote such wonderful words that I wanted to share them with you. She also left a link to the Waterbug story

“I believe that the loss of a loved one does change you forever but that the change isn’t always a bad thing. The days will come when the smiles will take over the tears when talking about our loved ones. Everything we go though in  this life as an affect on us death is no different.”

It was the last sentence that made me really think…”everything we got through….has an affect on us, death is no different”

She is right. Death is yet another challenge, another event that shapes us as people. If life was perfect, I am not sure we wouldn’t be bored! Life is imperfect because humans are imperfect. Life is not what we are given, life is what we make it.

When you grieve, you are wanting life to change…..to be perfect…to want eternity. In reality, that wouldn’t be life. Life has a start and an end, we may wish that they had lived longer, we may wish that they were still here….but maybe we should just make one wish – that

Others get the chance to love like we did…

Don’t forget to get your memorials, your stories, your poems in for our special Rememberance Day on August 12

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