Where does strength come from for Grief?
November 4, 2008 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Affirmations of Life
- From the love that made you who you are….
- From the desire to keep their memory alive….
- From knowing that nothing, absolutely nothing, will bring them back..
- From knowing that life is too precious to give away….
- From seeing the pain of those around you, who want you to come through the pain….
- From a life history of knowing that things will “look better in the morning!”
- From focuing on what you can do rather than what you can’t change…
- From knowing that they would want you to find a happiness….
- From deep inside, from that personality that made them love you….
- From knowing that giving up will feel no better!
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Anna,
Once again, you nailed it. These are the points I have been trying to live by since that awful day in June when “we” became “me”. I’ve had a few rough patches lately but reading this post this morning just brought me back to my determination to strive for a good life for myself. Sometimes it’s so hard to look beyond the moment but I am going to print off this post and read it every day. I draw a lot of my strength from this blog and the many contributors. Thank you, Anna.
Just one more thing today. Congratulations, to all of you out there in the USA who elected your first black President last night. I stayed up to watch Barack Obama’s speech. It was inspirational. I have great hope for you and for the world. My newspaper in London, Ontario, Canada this morning – “Yes He Did”!
Good post, Anna!
And Leslie – I was proud to vote for Barack Obama, proud of the graciousness of McCain’s concession speech – and now we can (maybe) say, “Yes, WE did!”
Yes congratulations to all of you in the US, fingers crossed that he can live up even partially to all the worlds expectations!
Leslie I am with you on the ups and downs. I have been quite tearful lately. It is this blog that keeps me going.
I think I just feel, come on girl…see the future, create the future….after all the alternative is not exactly thrilling. I look around the world in Zimbabwe, congo etc and see real suffering. Yes I have pain but I have also enjoyed the most wonderful love…I have a lot to be grateful for. I think the reason the blog helps so much is that it means I never feel alone, I think that together we are stronger and hope that our ups and downs don’t coincide so that we can balance each other out.
Keep smiling today, remember a smile can lift not only your day but it is amazingly contagious
Me, again. My sister, a widow for over 6 years, told me that the tears still strike her – even this many more years later. And this happens even though she has a very nice man in her life now – but that doesn’t mean that you forget (or even want to) the many loving years you had with your late spouse. I myself had some very, VERY “down” days recently, probably compounded by our wedding anniversary Oct. 26th and then the Prayer Garden dedication at my church Nov. 2nd. I would probably be MORE concerned if I did NOT have those tearful moments. I just want to be watchful that the tearful times are NOT the majority of the time, which I guess could be an indication of depression and an indication that I should seek professional help. And believe me, if that does happen, I will find a doctor who can help me in that area!
Jessica – it would seem we are all struggling a little at the moment. I love your way of looking at it that made me smile. I think you are right that tears are a sign of hope, that the pain is coming out of our bodies to move on. Do you know wouldn’t we be better if sometimes we just didn’t think as much
Jessica thanks for bringing a smile to our faces